I am the MOH for a wedding in Jan. Today I received an invite to the bridal shower hosted by a family member! To add insult to injury, its over a holiday weekend, making it impossible for me to attend....do I just graciously decline, then host a close friends shower, as intended, a couple weeks before the wedding? Or, miss my family plans over the holiday and attend this one?
Re: Bridal shower overtaken....
Check with the bride or the hostess who all was invited to this shower; if there's very little overlap in the guest lists then go ahead with your original plans. If your whole guest list was invited then it's pretty silly to host a second one. I'm guessing, if the bride knew you intended to throw a shower, that she would have seperated the guest lists and the BP and moms will be your only overlap.
Whether you throw a second shower or not you should RSVP as you feel is best. One of my BMs missed my shower and bachelorette because she had a family thing, I understood, I'm sure your friend will too.
You should check with the bride to see if she is interested in a second shower. If you decide to go ahead with this, the MOB, MOG, sisters of the B&G and bms should receive courtesy invitations. Otherwise, there shouldn't be any overlap in the guest lists.
Just a thought - since the bride is already having a shower, would you consider organizing a bachelorette for her with her close friends?
If you can't go to this shower, then you can't go. I only had 1 BM able to go to my family shower and another BM didn't come to any pre-parties or events at all. Just politely send your regrets.
[QUOTE]You all have helped more than you know! Most of the blogs I read suggested that it was my duty...I was feeling as though I failed or something. You're right, WAY over thinking. I have already taken care of the B. party and figure the majority of her friends will not be attending this family shower. Which means, I get the fun one!!! Thanks again ladies, this is truly a great site. Wish I had actually used it 8 years ago!!!
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We try. It's how most of us stayed sane while planning our own weddings. :)
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