Hello all...this will be my 2nd marraige and his 1st. He has a niece who barely smiles, speaks, or even acknowledges that I am in the room (actually she is that way to everyone). Someone I would call a Debbie Downer but if you speak to her she will spit out a dry hello. Debbie also maintains a close friendship to his ex and keeps her abreast of everything going on in our relationship right down to pictures. Debbie approached me in church and basically told me she wanted to be a bridesmaid and felt she was more of a daughter to him than his own daughter. My plan was to have my 3 sisters and his other niece (one who is bubbly and outgoing) as my bridal party. When I spoke to him about not wanting Debbie to be in the wedding party, he says to allow it in order to keep down confusion. I thought it was my choice and my day. I have tactfully tried to let her know that I have already chosen the party but she does not care and still keeps hounding him about it. How would you guys handle this situation?