Hi!
One of my bridesmaids is a pampered chef consultant. She wants to throw me a pampered chef shower, where basically, she hosts a show to sell her products, but then guests also see a list of things me & my fiancee registered for and can buy them for us. I've been to a pampered chef shower before, and honestly, it was awkward. I felt like I had to buy something for myself AND the bride (who I would have bought other gifts for anyways...but not necissarily pampered chef items). I would rather invite my friends to a traditional shower and/or a bridal/leingerie shower.
How do I tell this bridesmaid that I'm not interested...or am I stuck with a shower that don't want?
Re: What if I don't want a certain kind of shower?
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Suggest a partylites shower instead.
Kidding!
It's totally acceptable to decline a shower, etiquette wise, but it doesn't make it any less awkward.
If there's an alternative shower being proposed by someone, that makes it easier, or you could just say you'd prefer a traditional shower.
She might throw it anyway and then you'd just have to suck it up, but hopefully she'll understand. But I think it's really tacky to turn a bridal shower you're throwing for someone else into a money making venture for yourself.
EDIT: Oooh, you learn something new every day. I didn't know that it was ok to decline a shower someone wanted to throw. Good to know
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Posted by loganelaine[/QUOTE]
Just tell her. She's your bridesmaid so I'm assuming you have some sort of close relationship with her. Just explain that you feel uncomfortable with it and would prefer it not be a pampered chef party.
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I was hoping this was about golden showers. I don't want that kind of shower!
kiki--what's a golden shower?
[QUOTE] kiki--what's a golden shower?
Posted by loganelaine[/QUOTE]
Oh dear.
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It's kind of like your BM being a commission-paid employee of Bed, Bath & Beyond and throwing you a shower in the breakroom, while guests shopped the store for your gifts. Ick.
[QUOTE] Because I know my BM makes commission off of all of her sales. kiki--what's a golden shower?
Posted by loganelaine[/QUOTE]
Don't google it at work..
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[QUOTE]There was no pitch, just really good food and the women placed orders for me as well as for themselves.
Posted by mwhitson14[/QUOTE]
I think that's the point of why some feel it's tacky. The guests may feel obligated to not only buy a gift for you (which they were already planning to do since it's your shower) but to also buy something for themselves when normally they wouldn't. Most people do feel obligated to buy at least something when they go to a party like that, whether it be PC or Mary Kay or PartyLite or whatever.
And yes, don't google it at work.
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