Living Together?

klapham · April 2011

Just how many of you are living with your FI prior to marriage? My FI and I will be moving in with each other after we get married?

Currently, my FI and I are living across state lines (7 hours away) and will be until the day we get married! I was wondering how many of you are waiting until marriage to move in with your babe, or am I the minority...thoughts?

JessJess1079 · April 2011

My FI and I have been living together for about a month. We're renting a house from my parents. But we also have a 16 mo old son, so it makes things a lot easier to be living together.

AnnaKay12 · April 2011

FI and I have been living together for nearly two years. We moved in together shortly after we got engaged... man I've been engaged forever

mary9449 · April 2011

My FI and I live together. I moved in with him almost two years ago when he bought a house.

sweetcanadian1979 · April 2011

I am in the minority here but i have lived with my fi for 4 years. we moved in together after a few months of dating.

mjgnjrs · April 2011

Living together for 5 years now

knl1027 · April 2011

My FI and I have been long distance most of our relationship. He is in the Navy and currently stationed overseas until January 2012. He's trying to go into the reserves when he gets back, but we won't know for sure for at least another couple weeks. We are thinking of moving to FL after the wedding, so he may go ahead and find a place there when he comes back and I'll move down after the wedding and the school year is over. So, we've never really "lived" together, but we always stayed together whenever either of us would go see the other.

Rethany · April 2011

I will not move in with FI until after we are married.

However, we only live about three miles away from each other. I live with my parents. He lives in his own house that he bought about two years ago.

myfeverplays · April 2011

My FI and I been dating for almost 9 years and we have lived together for about 7 years.

sprtychick10 · April 2011

FI and I won't live together till after the wedding. We live about 10 miles from each other. I am in an apartment and he is in the house we will live in after our wedding. He moved in their in January.

CvilleClaire · April 2011

We started dating in 2005. He gave up his house at the end of 2009. He had been calling it his storage unit.

LOTON01 · April 2011

We lived together for 5 months before we got engaged.

michellep1 · April 2011

We are currently in grad school at the same school (same program as well), and we live in the same house with three other people, one of whom is my sister/MOH, the other two are his friends (one girl, one guy).

In less than a month, we will graduate, and until we find real life jobs, we'll both be living with our own parents, in cities about an hour and a half from each other. If we both find a job in the same city, we'll most likely move in together, however we really have no idea what the plan is at this point. We were long distance for over 3 years in the beginning of our relationship, so I'm not too concerned about it, although it is more difficult to be apart after being together for so long.

anayajami · April 2011

We moved in together about 4 months after we started dating..I can't imagine not living with a man before I would marry him. But I am not at all traditional or old fashioned in that sense. Knowing my luck it would be true love until we married.Then once we lived together we would probably hate each other. But to each their own.

hlzander · April 2011

We do not live together. We will start house hunting (we've been casually looking but can't do anything major till after I graduate May 7 and get a job) in a few months or so. After we find a house, he will probably move in a few months before the wedding, and we will start moving our stuff in and work on the house together. Or we will both move in right after the wedding. Right now we only live 8 minutes apart.

Melissa603 · April 2011

We've lived together for about a year

klapham · April 2011

KNL: I have never lived with my FI either. We lived 45 min apart when I lived at home and now we are 7 hours :-(...

I honestly thought we would have lived together before marriage, but you know what they say...you plan and God laughs...everything I thought was going to happen didn't. Guess the minority of us are saving SOMETHING for marriage ;-)

maritimebride2012 · April 2011

FI and I have lived together almost 3 years. He officially moved in with me about 3-4 months after we started dating. I say 4 months because that's when he moved all his stuff in, gave up his old place, etc. He says 3 months because one night he stayed over and didn't go home except to get new clothes for the next month.

I can't imagine not living with the man I planned to marry before marrying him. If we hadn't already been living together when he proposed, I would have moved in with after that for sure.

DrPB2b13 · April 2011

We have been living together for nearly two years. I moved in with him during my last college summer because there were a lot more job prospects where he was, and I don't get along with my family terribly well.

Personally, I'm really glad I did. It was a really weird adjustment to be living together, and I can't imagine how stressful and frustrating it would have been had we waited until after we got married.

lindseyann410 · April 2011

We've been together 6 years, getting married in a little over a year, and we're moving in together this summer. We basically spent every night together in college, and after we got jobs in different towns, so we have been living an hour apart for the past 3 years. I'm so excited to be able to sleep next to him every night again!

I do think it's imperative to know and understand each other's living habits before getting married though (not necessarily living together). Some marriages fail because the couples have unrealistic expectations of each other (cleaning/ sleeping habits/ video game and tv use). He will not change just because he's married!

WEEZIE918 · April 2011

We've been together 6 1/2 years, have been living together for the last 6 years, and bought our home together 9 months ago. I couldn't imagine not living togther before we get married, but that's probably because we've been together for so long now.

maritime - our situation was similiar..I had a roommate, he lived alone so I was always at his place anyway. Soon enough I was only going home to get clothes.

slbinpink · April 2011

We have lived together for exactly one year on Saturday :-)

Loving life so much since we moved in together. It has only added to our relationship!

Carrie1208 · April 2011

FI moved into my house last year, after about a month of living together we were hit with flooding in RI and our home was 9 feet under water and we had to move for awhile and we both stayed different places most of the time. But finally after 6 months of rebuilding our home we're back to living together. I love living with him - I thought it would be a huge adjustment but I can't imagine not living together.

raxxx17 · April 2011

this question is a good one... brings up the old fashioned idea of "why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free." my mom always told me to definitely live with someone before you are married... and she's right. i lived with my last bf and it made me realize that it wouldn't work in the long run. after we broke up i said i wouldn't live with another guy again until we were at least engaged, but FI and i moved in together about 4 months before we got engaged (he owned a house already and i moved in). but i think i only did i because i knew that we would get engaged and get married. i love living with him but if we hadn't gotten engaged fairly soon it wouldnt be ok with me after my previous relationship. also, my dad won't come to our house until we are actually married. crazy!

MaryLaura13 · April 2011

FI and I have been living togehter ofr aobut 3 years. We live in a studio apt under his parents. So ive been saying from the beginning if we can survie now we can survive anytime.!

midgetthemighty · April 2011

FI and I will not move in together until we are married. We're actually moving him into his (and eventually ours) apartment tomorrow! Both of us will be contributing to the rent/utilities which made us have second thoughts about waiting to move it honestly. Waiting is something we both want but we also cannot wait to wake up next to each other every day. We talked to my parents about the possibility of moving in together and they did not like it one bit. Both of our families and ourselves are very traditional and my parents think it would break my Grandma's heart if I moved in with FI before marriage. After bringing up that point, I realized they were right (I know...odd right jk) and we are respecting their wishes. I know it seems odd that we're both paying for the apartment but this will help us budget money and I can move some of my stuff there now (like movies and games) and not as much later. It will all work out in the end.

Shanee18 · April 2011

We have been living together for about 2 and a half years, and dated for about six months before making that move.

MMRoberts11 · April 2011

We moved in together last August. Really, it was just a convenience thing for us both to save some money by splitting rent and for me to be free from living with my parents.

julbgordo · April 2011

FI and I went to colleges which were literally across the street from each other, so we spent a lot of time in each others dorms/housing while in school. FI graduated a year before me and got settled with a career. There was a college right by him that had my masters program, so after graduating I moved in with FI. We've been living together for nearly 2 years now.

I can't imagine not living with FI. Our disagreements and most of our issues (however minor) nearly completely stopped after moving in together. My mom was originally upset about it, but then after we started living together she said something along the lines of, "I really don't mind it as much as I thought I would, but I would be very upset if you got pregnant before getting married." OK mom. Thanks.

bee&bee · April 2011

FI and I do not live together and will not until after we are married. I never wanted to live with a bf/so, I wanted our first year of marriage to be exciting and new and something different. not just a piece of paper. It makes it hard sometimes but we are both very glad we are doing things this way, we have something special that very few others have these days.

I give a lot of credit for those doing a long distance relationship while being engaged, that is even harder because you can't just drive a few mintues to see one another. I think you will treasure your time that much more once you are living together, after you're married. Best of luck to one and all and I'm glad to see that things are working out for which ever path you are taking.

niknik15 · April 2011

We have been dating for 3 years and have lived together for a full year. I think the hardest part in our relationship was being long distance (over an 8 hour drive)for over a year.

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