Bridesmaids Matching....or Not?

futurepivko · April 2010

When my only sibling/sister got married in April 2008, she had the bridesmaids (i was MOH) wear different style dresses that we all got to pick out individually in the Apple Red color from David's Bridal. Everyone thought that was 'so cool'. I'm getting married next April, and I want my bridesmaids to match. I picked out a dress I liked in watermelon pink from Davids, for my BM and my MOH (my sister) will be in the same dress in clover green. Is everyone else having their BMs match or do different? I'm hearing from a lot of people its "mean" to make them match because they may not like the dress and they have to purchase it and wear it for a day. I personally don't really care what they say, its my wedding day. What is everyone else doing?

jagore08 · April 2010

I did what your sister did. All of my girls were completely different shapes and sizes. I though it would be best if they chose something they would be comfortable in. Many brides still have their BM in the same dresses. Just listen to what they like and try to make everyone as comfortable as possible.

katieanne85 · April 2010

I am doing what your sis did too, my sisters picked their own dresses in DB watermellon, Its not a big deal either way.

What do your Bm's think? they are the ones to wear it after all, their opinion matters more than 'a lot of people'

jeanna85 · April 2010

I'm having all of my BM wear the same dress, but I took into account what they wanted and what would look best on their body. I was asked to not do strapless or halter and nothing really fitted. I ended up finding a great A-line short dress with straps that everyone loved. I think its fine to have everyone wear the same thing as long as you take into account what will make them comfortable.

mswood1977 · April 2010

I picked the color (Horizon Blue) and let me BM and MOH pick their own dresses and they don't match, they aren't even the same length.

mbcdefg · April 2010

My BMs wore dresses that were basically similar, but had slightly different necklines. I doubt anyone even noticed.

I don't think it's wrong to have them in matching dresses, but I DO think it's mean if you don't care about their comfort and if they don't agree on the dress. The "it's my day" attitude won't take you very far in life, and it's not a wise idea to piss off your friends just for one day that isn't as important as you probably think it is (in terms of what people are wearing, anyway ... joining with your partner is important, but forcing people into the same outfit just for the sake of uniformity is not a necessary part of the day).

AlisonM304 · April 2010

I'm doing the same thing your sister did (in the same color, actually). The reason I'm doing that is because my bridesmaids are all different shapes (one is 5'6 and a size 14 and one of the others is 5'6 and a size 2, you get the picture) and they wouldn't all be comfortable and look good in the same dress. If your bridesmaids are all comfortable in the same dress (take them in individually), then it's okay to have them wearing the same dress. This is especially important with your largest framed girl and smallest framed, as bad as that sounds, because those are the most extreme and you want to make sure they both feel covered without feeling ridiculous (or at least as much as you can in a bridesmaid dress).

bbyckes · April 2010

Yep, I'm also on your sister's train. I gave my BMs their choice of dress, I picked the length and the color. I don't want my BMs to look like clones of each other, plus I want a dress that looks good on them and something that they actually love.

kee80 · April 2010

My BM's match. I made sure to pick a dress all 3 really liked, and stayed within their budgets. I don't think it's mean to make them match, as long as they're comfortable.

laurae84 · April 2010

In the other 2 weddings I've been in, we all wore matching dresses in the same style. One was my sister's, I was in high school, my parents bought the dress, and I've never worn it since, and wouldn't wear it again (Not being critical, just explaining).

My friend actually paid for our dresses (from Penneys), which we definitely didn't expect. I love the dress and plan to wear it again.

I'm having my bridesmaids each wear a different color and different style. My one bridesmaid is ordering hers online due to price (and because brown is super-easy to find), but my other two got theirs at David's Bridal because the colors were easier to find.

munkeybutz04 · April 2010

I went back and forth on this one for a while before choosing my dresses...i ended up doing all the same one, just a long dress for my MOH. if you do decide to have them all pick thier own (which is great too), see if you can have them pick a standard style (floor length, knee length, etc.) so you do get some uniformity. both ways are SUPER cute, and im sure whatever you decide, your bridesmaids will be fine with it,

dixieonny · April 2010

MisMatched BM's for me as well. I love the look personally. I grew up going to weddings every weekend, as my mom is a caterer, and I've grown tired of the traditional- everything to do with a wedding, along with the matchy-matchy. On top of that, like everyone else, my BM's are so different is shape and size and style, that I want them to look and feel their best and hopefully have something they'll wear again, and hopefully it was cheap!

hippie4yahweh · April 2010

I TRIED to get them to wear different dresses in similar colors, but they ended up both falling in love with the same dress. Total bummer for me, because I was trying to keep it SUPER casual and having them match upped the formality a little bit.

Just for the record- it may be your wedding but you asked ladies you love to stand up with you, right?? You should probably treat them accordingly. "MY WEDDING" = entitled, whiny bebe. Bad phrase to use.

steve_erica · April 2010

My 3 BM are all wearing diff colors AND styles. I gave them colors to choose from and they all picked which they wanted to wear, and then I told them to find a dress they loved in that color. It has worked out really well because they are all shaped very differently, with 1 of them being on the heavier side and so it's just not fair to expect everyone to look good in the same shape dress. Plus, by letting them pick the color and style, I felt like they were getting to have a say in my day which made me happy too.

On another note- I don't think its mean to make them all match. That is how its been done for sooooo long, and it is your day that you are paying for and each bride has a vision of how they want it to look. You will have the pictures forever... My one thing is that I would rather have happy bridesmaids who are comfy and relaxed.

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