Not sure...

Re: Not sure...

• megk8oz member

  

  January 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_not-sure?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:81c20e5c-44c2-4170-9ffe-32d8aacf63b8Post:c80b160d-2a1a-495c-949a-29d1aa9ddeb9">Not sure...</a>:
  [QUOTE]Does anyone have a list of who is supposed to pay for what?
  Posted by tjsgirl4ever[/QUOTE]
  
  May I ask why you need to know this?

  
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• AdeleDazeem member

  

  January 2010

  To be fair, tj... I understand what you are asking: who *tradtionally* pays for what. 
  
  Unfortunately, it's rude to presume anyone will pay for anything.  No one is obligated to offer you a dime.  It is the sole responsibility of those getting married to pay for their wedding.
  

  
  

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• bbyckes member

  

  January 2010

  If you need a more definitive answer, I'd consult Google.

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• lostsoule77

  

  January 2010

  This is a list of who traditionally USED to pay for what.  I am copying it from "Wedding Sites and Services."  Just keep in mind that it is now pretty much up to the couple to pay for their own wedding.  Don't assume, or expect, anyone else to help out unless they offer to.
  
  Bride & her family:
  -Engagement party & photo
  -Wedding reception
  -Invitations, Announcements & all postage for all mailings
  -Brides dress & accessories
  -Flowers
  -Church rental, decorations & organist
  -Transportation for bridal party to church and reception
  -Hotel accomadations for her out-of-town attendants
  -Groom's ring
  -Gifts for her attendants
  -Guest and gift list books, garter, & cake knife
  -Photos, Video and music (they say this may be paid jointly or by the groom as well.)
  
  The Groom & his family:
  -Bride's engagment & wedding rings, bouquet, & gift
  -Marriage license and clergy's fees
  -Rehearsal dinner
  -Boutinnieres for Best man, ushers, fathers, grandfathers & ring bearer
  -Corsges for mothers and grandmothers
  -Gifts for his attendants and his out-of-town attendants
  -Honeymoon
  It also says that he (they) may help with or pay for attendant's formal wear.  Also beverages, music, flowers, etc.
  
  I hope this helps. 

  

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• trix1223 member

  

  January 2010

  It used to be that the above guidelines were appropriate.  It also used to be that fathers provided a dowry of 3 cows and 6 goats for their daughters.
  
  Today, it is far more common that you and your FI plan the wedding you can afford yourselves.  If someone offers to pay for any part of it, graciously accept it for the gift it is.
  

  "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146

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• tjsgirl4ever member

  

  January 2010

  Thanks guys.  I wa actually just Asking so if anyone asks if they can help I can tell them (im not expecting ANYONE to help). It was strictly for reference sake
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  January 2010

  If anyone asks to help pay for anything, your response should be "We'd be grateful for anything you'd like to cover.  What did you have in mind?"

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• krmabojo

  

  January 2010

  Man... some people are greedy and expect too much.

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