Let me begin by prefacing this by stating that my FMIL has, for the most part, stayed in her lane. Meaning she has not been overbearing, and has allowed my fiancé and I to plan our wedding as we see fit. In saying this, I also have to say that her communication with me has always been superficial to say the least. We speak, but she has never gotten to know me or anything about me of my family. While, on the contrast we have been there for her and her family, yet she can't even remember my mother's first name.
Moving on...my point in this post is to vent about how absolutely disgusted and irritated I am about her behavior at our tasting. We are having our wedding at a private social club in Detroit, and we decided to invite her as well as my mother to our tasting. Given the venue, it would seem as though one would present themselves with a certain demeanor and carry themselves with a certain level of decorum. And, let's face it; a tasting is just that, a tasting. It isn't meant to be a full meal. So, in understanding these circumstances please help me understand and cope with the way she acted....
It all started when she had entirely too much to drink for someone who can't tolerate one glass of wine. Then she proceeded to request seconds, continued to drink, and was loud and obnoxious at the table to the point where I couldn't even get a word in edge wise with my fiancé regarding our menu selections. At one point my fiancé did tell her that her behavior (I think it was the incessant talk about having seconds) was staring to annoy him. She was eating off of her knife, talking with a mouth full of food, and when she did go back for seconds she brought back two plates. To make matters worse, when we were leaving she went to the bartender and asked to take a can of pop to go. No one else was taking pops with them, nor was anyone else getting or requesting seconds.
I can't even begin to illustrate the way she acted in such a short post, but I am flabbergasted at the fact that she was not at all perceptive to the contrast in her behavior with the social setting that she was in. I am not sure if I am reading too much into this, or just being overly sensitive, but I was always taught that you adapt to your surroundings and act accordingly. I am worried that she is going to behave the same way, possibly worse, at my bridal shower and even worse at the wedding! Please, someone talk me off the ledge.