Bride's Maid Woes :(

anpiercey · July 2010

So I'm 21 and recently engaged to an amazing man, he truly is my prince charming. We are both close to our families and they all get along wonderfully. I went dress shopping last weekend and found the dress of my dreams and bought it. I should be on top of the world right now but I'm not because I don't have any close girlfriends to share it with. All of my girlies from high school are spread out at different colleges and we have all lost touch as our lives and personalities have grown in different directions. In the past two years I have started up my own business all on my own. Not having a college degree or anyone to hold my hand through the process I have been fully consumed by getting my business up and running. I am proud to say that in the first year we turned a small profit. Unfortunately because I've been so busy the little extra time I have goes to my FI and our families. Because business is gong smoothly I have more time now to foster friendships but I don't know where to turn to to find women in the area with similar interests. Will someone please help???

enlightened1 · July 2010

WELCOME!! This is a great starting point

Have you met anyone in the industry where you work? That's where I've met some of my closest friends. That's great that you are spending quality time with your family, and I'm happy for you that you are seeing how important it is to also make time for friends. I had to learn that the hard way.

Just start making yourself more available and don't turn down any offers to do non work-related activities! I'm sure your social life will pickup in no time.

Pixel'sMom · July 2010

Welcome and Congrats!

You should be proud of the fact that you're running a profiting business! Not everyone can do that!

Do you have any relatives: cousins, aunts? Anyone you'd want to share your experiences with should work! I'm having an ex in as my 'brides man' because we've been great friends every since we broke up- it's a long story, but it'll work out for us because FI has a girl on his side too.

I found myself in your shoes last year, so I took some classes, events like: chooking classes, stationary shops, classes at the gym and things like that. I made a few friends that look like will work out for me long term. Just think outside the box a little. So don't give up!

PLUS, you can chat here with us! We may be a bit too opinitated at times, but general very nice and helpful!

Kahalagurl · July 2010

Im totally in your same boat!!! i moved here from Hawaii a year before getting engaged and knew only a couple of people outside of FI, No family or girlfriends here to help.. What I did was save big planning stuff for certain weekends and get somebody, even one person, to come visit for a planning weekend. that has saved my sanity as a bride and made me feel like I could share my joy, also the knottie girls on this board are so friendly and helpful, it has been truly a big help for me. Meeitng other girls at Get Togethers (GTG) also puts more of a face on all of our screenames and everybody is there to help and give advice.

Its definately not the fairytale planning that I thought i would be having, but I have had my girlfriends and family involved in one way or another. good luck and know there is always somebody on the boards who will give feedback on the most mundane/silly questions and decision makings that you will have.

jennuinne · July 2010

Sorry to hear that. I don't have any great ideas. I have some friends from HS, some from college and some from law school. But most of my friends now are through work. Are there any networking opportunties to meet people in the same field?

I do have several friends here, but with busy schedules and everyone in different stages of their lives, its still hard to find the time to hang out. I've been feeling like that a lot lately, that I'm planning this wedding all by myself and there's no one to really share in the excitement.

KST_ · July 2010

Wow, I'm so impressed you have a profitable business at such a young age and in such a tough economy!

I found myself in your boat several years ago with almost no friends (but I was also single so my only interaction was with a few family members). Luckily, I worked at a company that, while kind of an unhappy place to work, somehow had attracted some really great people. It took awhile but I managed get a few friends (and my DH!) out of the deal. One of my closest friends now is at the place where I currently work. Seeing how you own your own business, even if you have employees, it's not as easy for you to just turn to coworkers to look for friends. Ditto PP in looking to your business network. Taking classes can also be a way to meet new people that have similar interests and a basis to start a relationship. Also, definitely don't turn down invitations! You never know how that can result in new friendships. At our annual Oktoberfest party last year, a couple who are friends of DH met a couple who are old college friends of mine. They ended up getting invited to my friends' annual chili party and a new friendship opportunity!

Everyone here is actually pretty dang awesome, so we are a good source to go to for good advice, and even people who will rejoice with you over things like finding the perfect dress (um...you have to post a picture! First rule!), lament over frustrations. We have GTGs about every 6 weeks and I highly recommend you try to make it to them! I would say I've come away with new friends in REAL life with gals from here.

jennlin · July 2010

hi welcome! i was in a similar boat with you...after hs, all my gf's went a separate ways. and now, all my friends are boys =P

but just make the most of what you have..i had 3 girls at my bachelorette and that's all you need...my bridesmaids consisted of the few close friends i have left, and family.

welcome to the board! you will meet some amazing ladies here if you keep up with us! also, i would reccomend, since you are still new! change your username. it's your email address, and you don't want spammer/stalkers!

anpiercey · July 2010

Thank you so much everyone for you kind words and encouraging ideas! I can't wait to meet all of you at your next GTG. In the mean time does anyone know if it's possible to change my user name??

jennlin · July 2010

the easiest way to change your user name is to make a seperate account entirely with a new login email and everything. if you want to keep your original login email, it's more time consuming:

1) make a desired username with a different email
2) change the email of your current account to a different email account
3) go back to that new account and change that email to your desired email account.

kristend72 · July 2010

As much as you can find time for it, start getting involved in some classes at the gym and maybe check out Events and Adventures. A lot of people use it to find significant others but they do say that people who are just looking to make some friends can use it.

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