Okay, I should start off by saying that though there is someone wedding related stuff mentioned this is not a wedding issue. I’m having an issue with my best friend/MOH and it’s killing me because I don’t know how to make it better. I’ve been best friends with my MOH (I’ll call her that as opposed to using her name) since high school and we’ve always been incredibly close, like sisters. The last few years however she has started to slack off in the friend department. She lives in OK so it’s understandable that the friendship is a little harder to maintain but we have always managed before. The last couple of years though she has gotten worse at returning phone calls or e-mails and she almost never iniates calls unless she’s upset about something. To a certain extent I understand, she’s married now and has a daughter and a full-time career. But I also think part of being a friend is being in each other lives and I don’t feel like she’s been there for me in a long time. In the last couple of years I’ve brought this up a couple of times, just saying that I don’t know what’s going on but it hurts if she doesn’t ever return phone calls or anything and the only time she really seems to call is when she needs something or has an issue and when I bring it up she always apologetic and things get better for a while. And, when I say return phone calls please understand I’m not calling her all the time and asking for her to constantly talk, I mean more like once a month. I want to know what’s going on with her so I like to call, plus I’m her daughter’s godmother so I want to hear all about her as she’s growing up and hitting milestones. Anyways, things have been getting worse for a while now and I’m not sure what to do, they seemed to go even further downhill once I got engaged. She was one of the first people I called when I got engaged, despite my annoyance I still love her to death, and she was super excited immediately coming up with ideas for the bachelorette party. And a few months later, when she was in town, I asked her to be my MOH and asked that she was okay with planning with bachelorette party and everything timewise. (She had already volunteered to host the bachelorette party.) She said it wasn’t a problem and she was incredibly excited. I know many of you will say I picked my bridal party too soon, I’m getting married in Nov., but I love my wedding party and couldn’t imagine not having them up there with me. I didn’t talk to her about any wedding stuff for a few months after that cause it was still super far away and there was no point but as she is leaving for a few months and being deployed over seas (she won’t be near fighting, yay!) at the beginning of the year to possibly June I thought we might need to talk about a couple things. A lot of the people closest to me are out-of-town so I talked to her about just picking a date so people could make travel arrangements. It was always planned to have the bridal shower and bachelorette party some weekend in July or August so people traveling wouldn’t have to take too many trip so close together if they wanted to come to both. She thought that was a great idea and promised to talk to everyone to set a date. Over a month went by and I didn’t hear from her. I wrote e-mails and texts that went unreturned. I asked around and she never talked to anyone about the bachelorette party. She totally ignored me for two months. I tried calling and e-mailing just to make sure she was okay and that nothing was wrong. I talked to her mom to check on her but there didn’t appear to be any big issue for her to ignore me. I sent her daughter presents for her birthday and never heard anything. I just asked that she let me know everything got there okay. I don’t know what to do anymore. I tried telling her how I feel but she just ignores it. She admitted not being a good friend lately but she doesn’t seem to change her behavior. I’m getting really angry and hurt and don’t want to feel that way with one of my closest friends. I basically just need new ways to try and talk to her. I’m going to wait until she gets back because I don’t think she needs any added stress right now but I need some ideas. I’m tired of being angry and feeling like the only time she has time for me is if she has an issue. There’s more I want to say, I’m pretty upset about the whole thing, but this is already crazy long, sorry. Please help with ideas on how to resolve our friendship. The wedding stuff doesn’t matter, just want to be able to be friends.