October 2012 Weddings

stds went out

So we sent our stds out yesterday.  Today, I received a facebook message from a member of FI's family, asking if so and so was invited.  The person she was asking about has been rude to both FI and I in the past, and we had decided against inviting her.  I'm not worried about hurting this person's feelings (I doubt she could care less), but I don't want to hurt anyone else's feelings in FI's family either. 
Any thoughts on how to word a response? {we are having a rather large wedding, so "we are keeping it small" is not really going to work}.
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Re: stds went out

  • I think that the WAY that you respond depends on who in your FI's family is asking however a no is a no regardless of how you dress it up.
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  • I would say something like, "Our guest list has gotten too long that we were only able to invite our closest friends and family" and hopefully they will understand that you two just aren't that close to that person.
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  • Just say no, they weren't invited and leave it.  I don't feel like the bride and groom owe anyone an explanation about why someone wasn't invited.  

    I'm assuming this uninvited person isn't a SO.  If it's a SO they are asking about, then yeah, they really should be invited and I can see why they might ask.  Otherwise, no need to give an explanation.  It will just give that person a response to come back with.  
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  • "Due to circumstances beyond our control, we had to limit our guest list."

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  • edited February 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_stds-went-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:d19ee08c-3f93-4181-acf5-63e82e427d42Post:bde357a7-cc12-4ebb-88d5-9b109918bea9">Re: stds went out</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just say no, they weren't invited and leave it.  I don't feel like the bride and groom owe anyone an explanation about why someone wasn't invited.   I'm assuming this uninvited person isn't a SO.  If it's a SO they are asking about, then yeah, they really should be invited and I can see why they might ask.  Otherwise, no need to give an explanation.  It will just give that person a response to come back with.  
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  • It wasn't a SO she was asking about; thanks ladies!
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