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JOP Weddings and Registries

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The more I think about planning my wedding, the more stressed out I get. I am to the point of just having a JoP wedding and calling it a day. My FI actually wants a JoP wedding, but was going along with the planning because he knew I wanted it. But looking at the reality of our budget it doesn't seem possible.

Now, is it a bad idea to have a registiry if we do a JoP? I don't want to offend anyone. Also...if I do a JoP, will they date our certificate a day before or after? You see we wanted a certain date, but because of the day it feel on we changed it, but if we are going the jop way, we could have the date we wanted...I hope..(its on a Sunday and I dont think they are open on Sunday)
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Re: JOP Weddings and Registries

  • noodle_oonoodle_oo member
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    edited April 2010
    Does JoP (justice of the peace) mean a court wedding to you?  Is that what you are talking about?  We're have a JoP officiate our wedding because we want a nonreligious ceremony outside, but it will be a full wedding at a hotel with cocktail hour and reception afterwards.  I don't think JoP necessarily means small wedding.

    Anyway, regarding registering:  if you have a wedding with lots of guests and a reception, then sure you can register.  However, if you do a court wedding with no guests, I think registering is tacky.  Sure close friends/family will probably get you presents anyway, but setting up a registry for a private ceremony seems gift grabby to me.

    For example, would you register if you eloped?  I think not.  Same idea.

    Oh yeah, and the JoP dates the marriage license the day of the ceremony.
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  • katiewhompuskatiewhompus member
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    noodle_oo : Generally on this site if a user says JoP it's implying a court house ceremony, not using a jop as an officiant for a more elaborate wedding.

    The JoP is going to date your marriage the day you said your vows. Not the day before or the day after, the day of, as legally instructed.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jop-weddings-registries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:511f2a8e-f4a0-44f5-b348-54265ad6edd3Post:3525129c-c54a-49fe-b876-a76f8546c919">Re: JOP Weddings and Registries</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm confused.  It sounds to me like putting any day on your marriage certificate that isn't the day you ACTUALLY got married would be fraud. No?
    Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]


    That is what is means to me.

      It would like my mom deciding she didn't like my birthday and asked them to put the date on the birth certificate a day before or after the real date.






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