Bridesmaids - Make-up

Carolina A · June 2010

I have recently decided on the bridesmaids dresses for my wedding party as well as the hair and make-up stylists. I have started to recieve some push-back from individuals in the group who do not want to pay to have their make up done by the make-up artisit. This is something that is important to me and I am starting to feel as though my request might be out of line. Help?

JoyTate1 · June 2010

unless you are paying for the make-up, your request is out of line.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2010

I don't like other people doing my makeup.

For me, it's not even a matter of money. It's me deciding how I want to look.

baystateapple · June 2010

You can't make them get their makeup done professionally unless you're paying for it. If it's "important" to you, then foot the bill.

stina93446 · June 2010

If you are requiring hair and makeup, you're required to pay for it.

stina93446 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]I have recently decided on the bridesmaids dresses for my wedding party as well as the hair and make-up stylists. I have started to recieve some push-back from individuals in the group who do not want to pay to have their make up done by the make-up artisit. This is something that is important to me and I am starting to feel as though my request might be out of line. Help?
Posted by Carolina A[/QUOTE]

emilyinchile · June 2010

Out of line. BMs sign up to buy a dress (that should be within the budget they give you). Expenses beyond that aren't their responsibility - if you're requiring pro hair/make-up because it's important to you that's ok, but you need to pay for it. Otherwise just let them do their own getting ready, which I'm sure will be fine because they presumably know how to make themselves look presentable.

mbcdefg · June 2010

Your request is out of line.

Do your BMs get to decide on ANYTHING for your wedding themselves, or are you just dressing them up like Barbies?

suz62984 · June 2010

Your request is out of line!

You can ask them to purchase the dress; however if you are stipulating that they get their hair and makeup done you need to pay for everything. This is not something a BM is required to do. Besides, some people are very picky about who does their hair or makeup.

CTGirl30 · June 2010

Your request is out of line - your friends are not dolls to dress as you please and have made up as you please. People's skin reacts differently to makeup / how someone wears makeup - or doesn't - is a very personal thing. Better to give them the option to get their makeup done (and better yet - you offer to pay for it if it's so important to you) or for them to do their own.

I hired a hair & makeup team to come to my home the morning of the wedding. I asked my 4 BMs who wanted hair and who wanted makeup. All of them wanted hair and only a few wanted makeup (the others did their own). Guess what? They ALL looked gorgeous and no one felt forced into paying for something or having a service they didn't want.

banana468 · June 2010

Ditto PPs. Your request is completely out of line.

If you're requiring this then it needs to be paid for by you - and that said, you need to understand that some people are quite particular with their makeup.

You need to apologize and back off. Let them know that this is totally optional and / or something you're paying for whether they choose to use the artist or not.

bablingbrooke · June 2010

I'll ditto the other ladies. But I'm curious: Why is it so important to you? Have you ever noticed the makeup on BMs in a wedding before?

aerinpegadrak · June 2010

I hired a stylist to come in and do everyone's hair, at my expense. She does makeup, too, but all of the girls declined to use her and did their own. Everyone looked great.

I think you're out of line.

trix1223 · June 2010

First of all, your wedding is almost a year away. Deciding on stuff like this now is just silly.

But to answer your question: you are out of line. If your "vision" of your wedding is that important, hire actors to play the roles. Then you can absolutely determine hair and makeup and not worry about someone not looking up to your standards.

For DD's wedding, some girls had hair professionally done. Some didn't. None, NOT ONE, including the bride, had pro make-up. They all looked stunning.

If you forced me to have hair and makeup done, I'd be declining the "honor" of being in your wedding. No one does my makeup but me.

blackfire5th · June 2010

I wanted to ditto everyone and just add that paying for hair and make-up does not count as their bridesmaid gift. It is for the wedding and your pictures, which makes it a gift for you, not them.

duckie1905 · June 2010

Ditto to everyone. You are way out of line.

MairePoppy · June 2010

I agree with pp's and just wanted to add that even if you pay for the hair and makeup, you do not have a right to require them all to get it done. It took years for me to find products that don't irritate my skin and I don't use anything else. Same with my hairstylist. She knows what works with my hair and I'm not going to anyone else.

janedoe1113a · June 2010

Ditto everyone else.

I'm curious why this is so important to you though.

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