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I don't know what to do!!!

bridetobeJessFbridetobeJessF member
100 Comments Second Anniversary
in Nevada-Las Vegas
Our RSVPs are mostly in, and none of my FI family can make it to Vegas. He keeps saying he's ok with it, but I can see his disappointment. All he will have out of our party of around 50 will be his mom and sister. Meanwhile, mostly my family makes up our guest list with mutual friends sprinkled in. I feel horrible for him and am mortified at the thought of my family askIng him where his is, or to meet them. We are just under two months away from the wedding date- I didn't dream this would be an issue.
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Re: I don't know what to do!!!

  • Knottie1450123632Knottie1450123632 member
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    first off thats terrible :( but can you find out from his side why they cant come or not willing

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  • Mango MargaritaMango Margarita member
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    None of my OOT friends/family from home could make it or H's. He only had his mom and brother there and he was okay with it. I definitely felt bad and my BFFs called the morning of upset they weren't here.  But I realized as long as our moms were there, it would be okay. Those were the two people who had to be there no matter what, for us.

    Yes, I missed my friends and sister. And he missed his friends. But it worked out anyway and we didnt feel obligated to entertain people after dinner because they came so far.
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  • bridetobeJessFbridetobeJessF member
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    Well, he has a small family.. Just one sibling and the extended family isnt very close. FI didn't have a whole lot of people he invited, but I think he thought the ones he invited would come. His mom said it's nothing personal, they just couldn't afford to come. I just felt horrible when he looked at me and said 'I'm going to have no one there for me'. :
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  • icefog34icefog34
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  • swalsh76swalsh76
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    In Response to Re:I don't know what to do!!!:[QUOTE]Well, he has a small family.. Just one sibling and the extended family isnt very close. FI didn't have a whole lot of people he invited, but I think he thought the ones he invited would come. His mom said it's nothing personal, they just couldn't afford to come. I just felt horrible when he looked at me and said 'I'm going to have no one there for me'. : Posted by bridetobeJessF[/QUOTE]

    He does have someone there for him...YOU! don't let him lose sight of that and he will be okay. I know this sounds corny but my fi's parents and grandparents are dead. I always tell him that he can borrow my mom or dad if he needs to. It's sad but I know he truly feels like he's part of the family. So yeah, instead of focusing on "yours and his" try to focus on eachother and "ours."
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  • nursing2unursing2u member
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    Swalsh76 said some great things... I felt the sadness with the few words he said... but its sooooo true.. if he doesn't have a lot of family... GOD sent you and your FAM to be his new FAM. Is there any wAY IF HIS MOM JUST truly can't afford it... you and your parents could surprise him and pay for her?..just a thought.. And you still have time.... anything is possible... But just YOU be there for him so he doesn't feel sad.. this is a JOYOUS occasion!!!
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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    edited January 2013
    Is there any way you can scrap some things in the budget and pay for his parents to come? My parents don't have a lot of money, so we put their tickets/hotel into the budget and went with cheaper STDs, flowers, dress, etc.
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  • bridetobeJessFbridetobeJessF member
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    Thanks for the words of encouragement and wisdom ladies! It did make me feel better about the situation. To clarify, his mom and his sister (his only sibling) will be there, his dad isn't in the picture. I just felt bad.. but I think everything will be alright.

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  • cuetxpiecuetxpie
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    You can also throw a lunch/dinner/gathering where your FI's family is located once you have returned from your wedding/honeymoon. Since financially they are not able to make it on the day of, that doesn't mean they can't share your big day with you :) During your lunch/dinner/gathering, you can also put on a slideshow showing photos from the wedding.
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  • bridetobeJessFbridetobeJessF member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_i-dont-know-what-to-do?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:20b114a4-1b98-4e15-8c37-2b63661f9839Post:3483d04c-2870-49c3-bd11-2b841ddcf6dc">Re: I don't know what to do!!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]You can also throw a lunch/dinner/gathering where your FI's family is located once you have returned from your wedding/honeymoon. Since financially they are not able to make it on the day of, that doesn't mean they can't share your big day with you :) During your lunch/dinner/gathering, you can also put on a slideshow showing photos from the wedding.
    Posted by cuetxpie[/QUOTE]

    GREAT idea! I had thought about doing a gathering near his family, but really love the slide show idea. Thanks!
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