I know this is a common theme on the September board .. but man I'm sitting here just upset and pissed at my BFF/MOH. Anyone else annoyed by theirs??
When I asked my BFF to be one of the MOHs (the other is my brother - I'm only having two attendants), she was beyond excited. Couldn't wait to pitch in, help out, plan the bachelorette party and do the bridal shower. Said because my brother was the other attendant, she'd get to do it all. Was giddy over that. Then came dress shopping and her attitude went downhill from there. Dress shopping for her was worse than trying to do anything else - even INVITATIONS - with this wedding. She hasn't wanted to help on any of the DIY stuff - which is fine with me - but she makes comments about wanting to help. When I ask - she's busy.
Fast forward to Monday night. My SIL (who was my friend before marrying my brother) asked when my bridal shower or bachlorette party were going to be - obviously she'd be invited. I told her no clue - no one has said anything, asked for a guest list. Zilch. Her eyes bugged out when I told her that. SIL said she'd get in touch with MOH (they are friendly too) and find out what is going on.
Turns out that MOH is "too stressed" and not planning on doing anything - shower or bachelorette party. She told SIL I didn't want one. Which is a total lie. I said I didn't really want to do a pub crawl because I'm not a big drinker but we could just get together and hangout, maybe go play mini-golf or something else fun.
So now SIL is handling it. She said its fine - she figured that my brother wouldn't be doing anything and she'd pitch in for him. I appreciate my SIL and love her dearly for this. That said - I'm pissed at the MOH for dumping this in her lap. Now I'm worried if she'll even be able to give a toast -- or handle any of the other duties - at the wedding.
I know we will get past this and we'll be fine. It's just making me rethink the outrageous b-day gift I was going to get her (it's Sept. 4) as a way of saying thanks for being such a great friend and for dealing with the wedding stuff. At this point, the gift - money to help her pay for the trip to Vegas in October - is gonna be much less. I'll use the money that I planned to spend on her and buy my SIL something awesome for planning my shower/bach. party instead. I was thinking facial or pedicure at this point. Ideas??
Thanks for reading. And yes, I know I'm being whiney and self-centered right now.