Anyone else's man work weekends?

Knittibell · July 2010

My fi works incredibly long hours on the weekends. He teaches Motorcycle Safety and does racing clinics. It's a second job and one he does because he's so passionate about it, and loves it. But it means he's up at 5am on Sat/Sun, and not home until 8PM. I miss him on weekends!

[Deleted User] · July 2010

That sucks. My husband works on Sundays. It's actually an awesome schedule because he works Sun - Wed and has 3 days off. I miss him, but it's also nice to have alone time on Sundays.

What do you do for a living?

Knittibell · July 2010

That is a GREAT schedule! I definitely don't mind being alone for blocks of time, but in the Spring/Summer/Fall he basically works 6-7 days a week. Winter is nice- I see a lot more of him then

I had to stop working when I got auto-immune disease #2- before that, I was a profesional event planner for non-profits. Everything from black tie galas with a 150K budget to huge events in parks with porta-potties!

I have Crohn's and AS and they're a little unpredictible as to whether I'll be fine on a given day, or tucked into bed on pain meds...so I had to give it up.

Now I knit and do glass mosaic work. I do a lot of charity knitting, and donate a lot of the mosaics I do to auctions for non-profit fundraisers. I also sometimes edit grant proposals and write press-releases as a volunteer. It keeps me busy, makes me feel productive, but I miss my job terribly.

Now that I'm engaged- even though it's a while off, the wheels are turning! Set an out of work event planner loose on her own wedding- my poor fi!

What kind of work do you do?

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Oh wow. I bet your wedding will be awesome. Do you have a lot planned so far?

My sister has Crohns. It's a shitty thing to deal with. I'm so sorry you've got all that going on.

Matt used to work a later schedule which meant that he didn't get home until almost 10 every night. That really sucked. We never saw each other then, so I definitely feel your pain.

I am an HR Business Partner. I absolutely love it. I get frustrated with stupid people sometime, but over all, it's extremely rewarding.

barbbhoww · July 2010

Mine works weekends sometimes. He is on-call this week and of course we got nasty storms that blew through. It is shitty because we both work long hours during the week so we hardly see each other.

But, it is nice to get some stuff done.

Knittibell · July 2010

Oh! I'm sorry your sister has to deal with it- it's really no fun, and I miss salad! It is also a total bitch to lose 10 lbs when fruits and veggies are off the menu. I can eat as much cake as I want without feeling sick, but in my 30's it hasn't done much for the waistline!

As for the wedding, we have nothing planned so far! We got engaged in April on a trip to Spain for a friend's wedding. It was a total shock- I knew we'd get married, but figured we'd sell the houses first and combine. FI wanted to make it official and have it be a surprise, and it was fantastic. This is actually my second wedding, and his first. I was married and widowed young. FI just wants it to be the best party ever, so I'm going to do my best to plan the day of his dreams.

Mostly I'm feeling incredibly lucky and happy to have found someone I love so much again- the rest is icing. We thought about a really simple JOP but he's the first child to get married, and his parents and friends are insanely excited to see him tie the knot, so we're going for the whole shebang.

Speaking of weddings, I have clicked your profile a couple of times, because I absolutely LOVE your sig pic and would love to see more of your wedding photos! Do you have a link to them? Just gorgeous- your dress is stunning.

Knittibell · July 2010

Barb, I hear you on getting stuff done! With my mosaic work, I just do that at home, and we spend all our time at fi's house. When we have a new house I'll have a dedicated studio space for all the glass and yarn, but right now I work in my tiny house's living room, and so there is always some broken glass and I don't want his/our dog walking around in here and risking those tiny shards the vacuum seems to miss in her little foot pads.

Everything ok with the storms?

[Deleted User] · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:dc4fe714-17d2-4c73-8893-ae01d540eeea">Re: Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]We thought about a really simple JOP but he's the first child to get married, and his parents and friends are insanely excited to see him tie the knot, so we're going for the whole shebang. Speaking of weddings, I have clicked your profile a couple of times, because I absolutely LOVE your sig pic and would love to see more of your wedding photos! Do you have a link to them? Just gorgeous- your dress is stunning.
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

This was exactly us. I'm older than my husband and have been married before. While I didn't have a big blow out wedding for the first one (we eloped, just the two of us), I would have been fine with something small the second time around, but I knew it meant a lot to Matt's parents for us to have a larger wedding. In hindsight, I'm so glad we did. It was a blast.

I'm so sorry about your first husband. That is so sad. I've read about it in some other threads. You are such a strong person.

I don't have a bio because I'm incredibly lazy, but here's a link to some wedding photos:

<a href="http://s548.photobucket.com/albums/ii328/cew515/">http://s548.photobucket.com/albums/ii328/cew515/</a>

Knittibell · July 2010

Thanks- going to go ogle your wedding pics!

Yeah, it's a little confusing sometimes, because Paul and I haven't really started planning yet... so when I refer to something I did for a wedding, or wedding planning, I'm referring to my late husband, Adam... and so far he's probably gotten more press, wedding planning wise. When I write advice in a post and refer to H and FI in the same post it's weird. But that's life!

My first wedding we only had 60 people, but we did it BIG. Since people traveled to the UK I felt it had to be worth their while- and it was! And then- losing him a year after we were married, I'm SO glad we did have the 'dream wedding'- the video from that day is the only good footage I have of Adam, and the memories of that day are just priceless to me. My fiance was friends with my late husband, and he's so amazingly supportive of the whole crazy-widow thing. I'm INCREDIBLY lucky. I always try to stay positive and look forward, because I don't want to be this bitter, stagnant person... if that makes sense?

I want to have all those same memories with Paul, because life is just too damn short! He wants a really fun party with the people he loves the most, and how can you argue with that!?

Knittibell · July 2010

Ok, your photos are GORGEOUS! I love your hair! I wish I could rock a style that short. Love the photo of all the men, and you and your H look so happy, you look like you laugh together all the time IRL.

LOVE the cupcake stand, too. And peonies are my favorite flower. Although this time around, I'll probably do roses, since I'll make my own bouquets and centerpieces, and they're more cost-effective.

But seriously- fantastic wedding photos. I'm so happy for you!

[Deleted User] · July 2010

That's awesome. You have such a great outlook on everything. I feel very lucky to have Matt as well. For me, I never really thought that I would find someone that could be the dad for Ben that I wanted. Someone who would accept us and love us as we are. Well, I did. I feel like I hit the husband lottery.

FutureMrsFraser · July 2010

My FI works every Saturday, it's not something he's required to do, but since he got in an accident this spring and was out of work, our wedding budget got used for bills etc with only having my income for 2 and half months, so he's trying to replenish it so we can still have the wedding we planned on. It sucks not having him here on the weekends in the Summertime because we really only have one day to go do things with Natalie as a family, but it's okay.

cew, your wedding photos are beautiful!

FutureMrsFraser · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:a9846217-a439-4e8f-aa6d-084c8ce20b64">Re: Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]That's awesome. You have such a great outlook on everything. I feel very lucky to have Matt as well. <strong>For me, I never really thought that I would find someone that could be the dad for Ben that I wanted. Someone who would accept us and love us as we are. Well, I did. I feel like I hit the husband lottery.
</strong>Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

I feel the same way about Jason. Natalie's never met her real father, he never wanted to be in her life, so really Jason's the only father she's ever known, but I couldn't have imagined ever finding someone to love and care for her the way he does, and want to be a part of our family. I met so many guys that wanted to date me, but didn't care to know Natalie, and that just didn't work for me at all, she and I came as a package deal in my eyes.

Knittibell · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:a9846217-a439-4e8f-aa6d-084c8ce20b64">Re: Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]That's awesome. You have such a great outlook on everything. I feel very lucky to have Matt as well. For me, I never really thought that I would find someone that could be the dad for Ben that I wanted. <strong>Someone who would accept us and love us as we are. Well, I did. I feel like I hit the husband lottery.</strong>
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

This is exactly how I feel. When I lost Adam I was 28 and felt like I'd had my love and lost him, and I was ok with never re-marrying. I figured I'd just be the crazy aunt, who at 80 was sleeping with my 20 year old pool boy. I was totally ok with that. Ad's Dad was actually the one who really pushed me to get out there and start dating, but it was really hard.

Adam didn't just not come home... it was 3 days of sitting with him waiting for him to die, and never geting to say goodbye, and that all has impacted me in ways that will always be an issue. FI knew me when I was married as an aquaintance and was a friend to me after. He started trying to introduce me to friends of his, to get me to meet someone- and I realized the person I should be dating was right in front of me. It just took a bit for my brian to click over from friend to something more.

I feel incredibly lucky, and Adam's family- who I am incredibly close to- all love him and are THRILLED.

My nephew's name is Ben. SUCH a great name. And your little boy is ADORABLE.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Yep, exactly mrsfraser. How old is Natalie? She's adorable.

FutureMrsFraser · July 2010

Natalie turned 3 in May. She's like a little mini me, although everyone says she looks like Jason, which is still weird to me. She atleast has my personality.

She's actually kicking me off the computer because she wants to play a Dora game online. lol

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Thank you, Knitti.

Aren't we all some blessed bitches?

Knittibell · July 2010

MrsFraser- that's excellent. I'm adopted (and so is FI!), and I have to say that sharing DNA with someone does not make them a parent! Sounds to me like Natalie has an awesome mom.. and DAD. And that photo in your sig is so cute. Funnily enough, people think I look like my dad, too- and there's no biological relation.

Knittibell · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:ed5872ee-e68a-4247-998a-194863ebdd8c">Re: Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you, Knitti. :) Aren't we all some blessed bitches?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Damn right we are! :)

kd.joseph · July 2010

Good Morning ladies.

Cew- I'm so glad you found someone like Matt. My ex was an awful husband, but he took my son as his own and raised him since he was 6 months old. Our son is almost 20 now. And my DH now raised his daughter since she was 4. It's nice to know there are men like that out there.

Knitti- you sound like such a srong woman. It's a pleasure having you here.

As for DH, he doesnt work weekends, but he works long hours during the week.So weekends are catch-up for getting things done.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Morning KD!

kd.joseph · July 2010

Morning Beautiful!

We have a list of things to do this weekend before we have visitors in a few weeks.

Thinking of going to see Inception.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

H works 7 days a week. It sucks. Most of the time he works until dark (he's a landscaper, so he uses all the daylight he can). Three days a week he works for the state as a fisheries biologist, the rest of the time on his landscaping business.

A lo of the time it seems like we never get to see each other. I feel guilty having weekends off, but at the same time I bust ass getting chores done so I guess we're somewhat even. I always wait until he's home to havedinner, so at least we can eat together, talk about the day, etc. Or when he is home early, we just hang out on the couch or maybe go see a movie.

I love when it gets dark at 5-5:30 instead of now, at closer to 9, so he's home earlier.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

I really want to see Inception. Today, we are going swimming and then meeting Rach and her H for dinner at the Melting Pot. I can't wait!

I've also been considering scratching our original plan to save up for a new house and just renovating our current house instead. I can't decide!

kd.joseph · July 2010

I'm so jealous of your GTG's, you stole my Rach! I'm trying to convince DH that we need to visit his friends in NC so I can visit you and Bec.

Well for us I'll tell you we like our house, but if we to do it again we'd look for a lot of different things in a new house. So, since moving is not an option we are re-decorating our whole house to make it comfortable at least.

FutureMrsFraser · July 2010

Knitti: Yes, I totally agree. Jason wants to adopt her, so that will be my next project after the wedding. Figuring out what steps I need to take and if I have to have her biological father sign over his rights, which I'm not sure he even has any since he's never seen her, and his name isn't on her birth certificate because he wouldn't come to the hospital to see her, much less sign it whenever she was born.

cew: jealous! I love the melting pot! The spinach and artichoke cheese fondue and the flaming turtle chocolate fondue our my favs. Oh, and the pine nuts in their ceasar salads are so yum.

Anysunrise · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_anyone-elses-man-work-weekends?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:8b77462d-67f3-46d4-9d7b-0c9cce7809a5Post:dcdf2394-98a7-4e1f-bb5f-5dca03a12abc">Re: Anyone else's man work weekends?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thinking of going to see Inception.
Posted by kd.joseph[/QUOTE]

You should. It was pretty good.

Knittibell · July 2010

MrsF-YGPM @ adoption.

KD- thanks. I don't see myself as particularly strong, I think we are all capable of surviving far more than we think we are. I also have amazing friends and family and am a huge fan of Valium.

CEW and KD, we're trying to decide what to do w/ houses, too. My house I bought with late H, and it's a TINY house in a REALLY nice town. Fi's house has a million stairs to get into it, w/ my arthritis isn't stellar for long term. We're tempted to tear down and rebuild my house, because it's the lot, not the house that's worth the money. I want more of a fresh start, and am wondering if a whole new house would be enough, or if I'd still equate the lot/location with my lateH. If that makes any sense...

dr_mrs.king · July 2010

My FI works 7 days a week. He's a new Pharmacy graduate so he's the newest at his store right now and works the weekends there, he also works in the hospital's pharmacy mon-fri. It's what you have to do when starting out, but it definitely sucks never being able to see each other. I work as a nurse so my hours change all the time, from days to overnights.. we usually get a quick few minutes at night or in the morning to talk and see each other but that's about it!

FutureMrsFraser · July 2010

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[QUOTE]MrsF-YGPM @ adoption. :) Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]

Thanks! YGPM back. :o)

FutureMrsFraser · July 2010

Oh, and Knitti, I also agree you are a really strong person. I couldn't imagine. A friend of mine recently lost her hubby, he was in the Army and in Iraq, and he was just 5 days away from coming home. It took me a week to even call her because I just didn't know what to say to her, and I knew nothing I said, anyone said, would make her feel better.Their 1 year wedding anniversary was last week and I still think about her and how she's doing daily.

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