I know that I am marrying the most amazing man and I was very joyously looking forward to the actual moment I'd get to become his wife. But all of a sudden I am nervous. We just set the date and wrote the check to the venue.
Cannot tell if I'm nervous because the wedding is really soon (sept 2) and I don't have a lot of time to pull things off, or if I am scared because I am totally about to change my life and the last time I took this step it was really really bad.
Matters are more difficult because my wonderful fiancee is traveling on business and will be for the next 4 weeks. He is totally involoved and supportive, just really far away.
Anyone else have this happen? Any advice you can give me besides just breathe and talk to my dear sweet man?
Re: Suddenly super nervous
I'm sure everything will be fine. Take your time and try not to become hypnotized by the wedding industry complex. Have a great time planning your wedding!
I never put much thought into how my life would change after I got married, but then I always considered myself a flexible person. Kevin was only here on weekends for the 4 years we dated, except for some vacations together as a family.
If you are nervous about changing your life, it's an honest reaction to a big change. But you mentioned he's a wonderful guy and you have no qualms about marrying him.
If this still is in the back of your head, talk to him about it. Talk out how you view your life as a married couple. Finances, things like that. To this day we still maintain our own finances, but have a joint account at my bank only because we had to open one to deposit wedding checks made out to both of us, LOL. We carry a minimum balance in it.
I also agree with Lisa, writing checks for large sums of money makes me nervous too.
Good luck.
And if there are children involved, this conversation ahead of time can be a relationship life saver. ~Donna