Vent longg - Mother & Fiiance

elopez6106 · January 2012

So Im ususally just a lurker but I really needed to vent and need some support from the people that are going through the same situation. So my mother, I am her first daughter getting married and she never had a wedding she just got married in city hall so this is a big thing for her. Everything me and FI liked about a part of the wedding I would ask my mom to see what she thinks. Most of the time she is like ehh what about this. Now I know this is me and the FI wedding but what if she is right I just want to do a trial and error. Like our invitations. My best friend is a graphic designer and he is doing our invitations. They are awesome but when we were putting it together the rsvp, direction card etc. was first and then the actual invitation. My mom said that it was stupid that everything else was on top rather then the actual invitation. I understood what she was saying but I wanted my friend to do what he wanted to do and I liked how he did it. I told my mom that I am gonna ask him maybe we can find another way of putting the invitation first.

I told my FI that I just wanted to try it out he got so upset and was saying that I always do what my mom says which is not true. I never said I was gonna do what my mom said I just wanted to try it out.

Then we got into a fight! ugh Sometimes I just want to elope !!

brittandjp · January 2012

The RSVP card typically goes on top of the invitation (if all you have is the invite and RSVP card/envelope). So, I'd imagine it would be the same with the directions in front of the invite because I assume the invitation is the largest. Therefore, all of the other pieces should be on top of the invite IMO. Your mom is wrong and I think you should listen to your FI.

Here is a website that may help:
http://www.lindsaybrooke.com/pages/mailinginvitations.html

centladyliz · January 2012

I think whatever you decide to do with your invites, they will turn out great! But do what you and your FI like... your mom will get on board. It is sweet to want to her to be involved in the planning, but don't forget... this is about you and FI. And as for the eloping... trust me, I totally understand that! But no matter what, as long as you and FI end up married at the end of your day, then it has turned out right. :-) In 20 years, you won't care how you stacked your invites.

firechick83 · January 2012

I agree w/ Britt! Sorry you're so stressed!

Priya490 · January 2012

I agree with the girls. One of the hardest things about wedding planning is trying to make EVERYONE happy and sometimes it's just not possible. Hear your fiancé out and do whatever you guys think is best. For our invites, we put the RSVP card and RSVP envelope on top of the envelope just because the actual invitation was bigger.

HobokensFury · January 2012

Mom is wrong. Everything gets piled on top of the invite. If it's such a big deal to her just mail hers with it on top and everyone else's the right way.