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Bridesmaids don't like dress choices

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Given the bridesmaid a couple of styles, looking for something more modest and affordable, one is complaining about cost + alterations of a 130 dollar dress, the other seems okay with what I pick. 

The one complaining wants strapless and just had breast augmentation...  Is it terrible of me to not want size D boobs popping out of a strapless dress on my wedding day (bridesmaid in question is also 4'8 and a size 0...so they're kind of huge!)?? 

Church has a stipulation on modest attire for the ceremony but they aren't specific.  They just state that a wedding is a worship service, and to dress accordingly.  To me this seems like immodest strapless is probably out?  Is that incorrect?

How does one politely handle a difficult bridesmaid? (who also happens to be her sister...)
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  • dizzineadizzinea
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    what about a high cut staight across strapless with no clevage and a bolero that she has to wear for ceremony?
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  • OFFOFF
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    I would tell her what you told us.  That the church has a stipulation about dress and so BMs can not wear strapless hopefully she will understand that your wedding is not a time to flaunt her huge boobies.   Also,like the previous poster's idea of a bolero maybe you can have BMs wear a wrap for the ceremony and then for the ceremony they can toss it aside.  That maybe the best compromise.
     

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  • stina93446stina93446 member
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    I have WAY bigger boobs than a D cup and I can get away with wearing a strapless in church. As long as she doesn't have a huge cleavage line and her nipples are covered I think she's ok. 

    Also, did you ASK your bms what they could afford? If you just picked a dress and told her to pay for it, that wasn't very nice. Even if you don't think 130 is a lot for a dress, it is for some people. I'd ask her if she's comfortable with paying for that and if she's not, I'd either pay the difference or let them all pick a different dress.
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  • wcvsb3b5wcvsb3b5
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    If you really don't want strapless and are worried about the church I would explain that whole situation to her. As far as the budget goes, I would ask her what her budget is and try to find something that fits what you want as far as modesty goes, but also fits her budget. (Or like stina said, pay the difference.)
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  • Santorini2011Santorini2011 member
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    This subject just erks me and here's why...you didn't tell her to buy big boobs!  To many times girls feel like they can flaunt them because they bought them. Ugg!!!  I am rude enough to tell her to deal with it or back out because it is YOUR day.  Give her a copy of 27 Dresses-everyone wears a dress that they don't care about because they actually care about the bride and it is her day.  As you can tell this hit home...good luck but stick to your grounds because it is not all about them but it is your special one day.

    As for the cost, this is a crappy economy. I think $130 is a great price and seems reasonable.  
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