S/O Body Image

andyandhillary · August 2010

Of course we all have "those days" but how do you feel on average?

AllAboutTheBenjamin · August 2010

On average - pretty damn good actually! I do have an occasional self-loathing day but like you say, we all have those once in a while.

debjwes · August 2010

I've struggled with body issues since middle school. For me is was an acceptance thing. I got made fun of by friends and a teacher for my weight. My parents divorced at that time too, my father was always hard on me about appearance as well. In high school i was always too thin. But now i'm healthy and happy for the most part. I still struggle with it on a daily basis, but i'm slowly accepting myself.

cougarette · August 2010

I'm pretty comfortable with my body. I do need to work out because I can get winded going up the stairs. But I don't think I need to lose or gain weight.

smore154 · August 2010

I usually feel real good about myself. I feel I do a good job enjoying the foods I want to eat while still knowing I gotta take care of myself and keep up the gym visits. Even if I gain a few pounds, yeah it stinks but oh well! I'm still awesome and so is everyone else!!

direy25 · August 2010

I voted usually - I still sometimes have issues with being flat chested. Overall I love my body, but trying to find fun lingerie is difficult when you're barely an A - it seems that everything sexy is made for girls with at least a B cup.

direy25 · August 2010

Why is my previous post centered?

cengle · August 2010

I think I'm about 50/50. About half the time, I feel okay about myself and can accept the way I look. Sometimes I'll have a "cute day," and think "I look pretty damn good today." The other half I feel gross.
What I decide to put on first thing in the morning will sometimes make the determination for the day. If I put on an outfit that fits me properly now (v. 5 or 10 pounds ago), I feel good. When I put on some of my older clothes that are still cute, but squeeze a little too much, I feel fat and gross.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

I am now. I used to get teased horribly for being really thin, to the point that kids were starting rumors about me having eating disorders. Those rumors followed me throughout high school. People conveniently ignored the fact that I got sick a lot from asthma (I've had pneumonia at least 8 or 9 times), which made me lose weight, and I also have a fast metabolism and have to eat every few hours. So back then, I hated how I looked.

Now I'm okay with my body. I don't think I need to lose or gain any and my H is always telling me how pretty he thinks I am. It helps to hear that. Don't get me wrong, I don't get all "I am so hot, be jealous of me" but it's nice being told by your H that he finds you attractive, you know?

nda_roxybabe · August 2010

It depends, I think I have up and down weeks. When I'm bloated or my stomach has extra chub I absolutely hate it.
I guess in general though I feel pretty good about my body.

andyandhillary · August 2010

I like my body and I actually rarely think about its flaws. I have a lot of them, but overall I'd say I'm attractive. I think a big part of this is that don't buy clothes unless they fit me well. I think a lot of women wore what flattered their bodies v. what's popular it would help their self esteem. Maybe I'm full of it, but that's been something I've noticed.

crfische · August 2010

Usually, I feel pretty all right now. I know I still need to lose some ell bee's, but I'm content in knowing that's the direction that I'm going and I feel pretty good about it usually.

But I so have those days.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_body-image?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b414933-6619-4e86-9906-8f44f611407ePost:43c771e6-4722-49d4-b66b-a17a3b437292">Re: S/O Body Image</a>:
[QUOTE]I am now. I used to get teased horribly for being really thin, to the point that kids were starting rumors about me having eating disorders. Those rumors followed me throughout high school. People conveniently ignored the fact that I got sick a lot from asthma (I've had pneumonia at least 8 or 9 times), which made me lose weight, and I also have a fast metabolism and have to eat every few hours. So back then, I hated how I looked. Now I'm okay with my body. I don't think I need to lose or gain any and <strong>my H is always telling me how pretty he thinks I am</strong>. It helps to hear that. Don't get me wrong, I don't get all "I am so hot, be jealous of me" but it's nice being told by your H that he finds you attractive, you know?
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

This is so nice that he does that. My fiance is always complimenting my body too, and it does WONDERS for my self esteem - especially on my rare bad days.

Brie2010 · August 2010

I generally feel pretty great about myself, but I do have days where I get down on myself. I try to focus on the awesome things my body can do as opposed to what it looks like, because I know I'm in great shape, but it's hard sometimes.

In some ways I think marathon training has magnified some body image issues for me--it's frustrating as hell to know that I run 30 miles a week and give a blood, sweat and tears effort, but am still overweight, when there's women out there who never lift a finger but are at a perfect weight. Even though I know I'd smoke them in any fitness tests.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2010

Well, I am fairly overweight and I really have been since puberty. I'm feeling BETTER about my body now that I'm losing weight. I just don't like the way I look in pictures/the way clothes fit me/how I compare to my friends, you know? But I think I have a lot of other stuff going for me, so...

Stackeye210 · August 2010

I voted "usually" - however the more I've been working out the more I've begun to accept it. If it were just my size that I was judging then I'd have voted rarely, because I'm working out and working on it and seeing changes. The thing that made me vote usually is from pregnancy stretch marks - it makes me feel so defeated knowing no matter how much I work out, I can't change those. I've really come a long way in regards to how I feel about them and just 2 weeks ago told T I don't obsess over them anymore. So I'm on the right track.

I have a great thing to show for them, so it isn't like I'd take it all back to not have them.

twilight.rose · August 2010

I generally do pretty well, but I do have days that I nearly relapse. I was anorexic for three years as a teenager, and spent 12 weeks in an in-patient treatment program.

H is amazing at helping me through those days, and as a general rule, I'm pretty good with my body anymore. I'm 5'10, and I weigh about 112 now, as opposed to the 91 pounds I weighed when I went into treatment seven years ago.

danieliza1127 · August 2010

I usually feel okay with my body, although I know I need to lose some weight to be healthier.

It's interesting to me that some people who are so skinny got teased for being so skinny, and yet as adults most women strive to be "skinny". I wonder at what age that standard shifts and it becomes desirable instead of something to ridicule.

missy68 · August 2010

Weight-wise, I'm cool with myself. I laugh when the chart says 5 lbs overweight or whatever. My mom even says I need to gain some. Yeah, don't think so.

I am not comfortable baring skin between my shoulders and my knees. There's way too much excess skin, and it won't "exercise off." One of my favorite wedding photos, I can't put up because it shows the bat wing arm.

kikibaby · August 2010

I hate my body about 90% of the time. I've gained a lot of weight over the past couple of years and it's been really difficult to try to lose it. My H tells me I'm sexy all the time, but I never believe him.

nda_roxybabe · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_body-image?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b414933-6619-4e86-9906-8f44f611407ePost:8663e3dd-9761-4c19-b553-6ae2f247354b">Re: S/O Body Image</a>:
[QUOTE]I usually feel okay with my body, although I know I need to lose some weight to be healthier. It's interesting to me that some people who are so skinny got teased for being so skinny, and yet as adults most women strive to be "skinny". I wonder at what age that standard shifts and it becomes desirable instead of something to ridicule.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

I don't know that the standard necessarily shifts. I think even young girls want to be skinny but yet they still make fun of those people because isn't that what you do in HS? Or because they themselves are insecure.
As an adult, I still get comments about being skinny, they're not as bad as they were in HS but they're similar.
I think adults do still ridicule skinny people, maybe just not to their face. Look at the way skinyn celebrities get both admired and bashed for being skinny.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · August 2010

I don't think it's ever okay to ridicule someone for being overweight or being too thin.

This morning on my way to work I saw a girl jogging who was obviously anorexic and it broke my heart. I actually get sad when I see overweight people too - especially kids.

nda_roxybabe · August 2010

A cup of soup hehe

baystateapple · August 2010

I have good days and bad days. But I'm generally pretty comfortable with my own body.

sarabear23 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_body-image?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b414933-6619-4e86-9906-8f44f611407ePost:36b6c2a2-de80-499e-bb28-99d06e0e8476">Re: S/O Body Image</a>:
[QUOTE]I hate my body about 90% of the time. I've gained a lot of weight over the past couple of years and it's been really difficult to try to lose it. My H tells me I'm sexy all the time, but I never believe him.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I feel exactly the same.

kayakrunhike · August 2010

For the most part, I feel good about myself. I've lost 15 lbs in the last year (after losing and gaining a bunch due to stress in the two years before that) and I feel so much better at this weight. I still have some to lose, but my DH tells me all the time how great I look, and I know there's a difference when I look in the mirror.

Yes, I get sad when I see overweight kids, too. I saw one in the caf where I work yesterday, and she must've been at least 30lbs overweight, and was probably about 7 years old. I wanted to take her outside and play soccer with her or something.

jnic0319 · August 2010

I am rarely happy with my body. I posted on the KPS post too but now I will post here. I think it's because I am surrounded by skinny girls. My sisters are both 5'4 and under 115lbs, that's their natural weight, my FSIL is 5'2 100 lbs, and I feel like the big girl. When they all go swimming I don't because they have these washboard abs and I don't want to be the girl with the love handles or have to stand next to them. I know I need to get over it, but it's very hard for me. Especially when my mom and sisters are always telling me I need to loose weight. I'm 5'4 and 130 lbs.

awolfe2 · August 2010

I think if it wasn't for wedding planning right now, I'd be a lot more secure. I bought a sample dress that was a little tight with the intention of having it taken out. My mom has been all over me about "just losing the weight". I've lost about 7 lbs (which for me is a lot, I'm only 5'4" and 125 lbs) and she still won't back off. I'm under my high school weight and happy the way I am! Leave me alone!

playtntsbpg30 · August 2010

Even though I was always "big", I had lost about 40lbs and got down to a size 16 and I was very comfortable with myself. Since hurting my back and unable to work, and not walk a lot, I have gained all that back and some. I am about the weight I was in high-school. I hate it. I am not comfortable at all. I don't eat junk food, or fast food. I had Mcd's for the first time in 4 months yesterday and I felt so sick afterwards. I don't eat much at all and small portions now that I am staying with my sister.

I long for the day I can get back into my size 16 and I'll be very happy and comfortable. I was at my healthy size for me. I wasn't shooting to go down to the single size jeans. Although that would be awesome. I just don't think I'd be cut out to be that size as I was never really there. I feel some people are made to be a bit bigger just in a (or as) healthy as possible way.

I was always picked up growing up but as others shared, you get picked on for being to skinny for someone's likings' or too fat. Or they find something else to pick on you about. We can never win in that area especially back in high-school.

jnic0319 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_body-image?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7b414933-6619-4e86-9906-8f44f611407ePost:1adbaf43-fe41-443c-8ae6-e8ba1dc2674c">Re: S/O Body Image</a>:
[QUOTE]I think if it wasn't for wedding planning right now, I'd be a lot more secure. I bought a sample dress that was a little tight with the intention of having it taken out. My mom has been all over me about "just losing the weight". I've lost about 7 lbs (which for me is a lot, I'm only 5'4" and 125 lbs) and she still won't back off. I'm under my high school weight and happy the way I am! Leave me alone!
Posted by awolfe2[/QUOTE]

Wow you sound like me. Maybe if our moms would back of we would feel better haha.

AmoroAgain · August 2010

I'm generally okay with my body--- I will say that it blows chunks to be around naturally thin and beautiful Swedes and they're all in great shape and don't seem to require makeup. What I get down on is my face, really often. I feel like I'm getting old and I just don't have any "freshness" to my face. I've fought my skin for years, and now it's clearing up, but I still have discoloration all over. I'd love to be one of those women who can just brush their hair and walk out the door.

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