I don't know if anyone remembers the story of my "friend" that came to Vegas and suddenly both of her friends flaked on her so she had no where to stay and asked to crash with me. Then she realized she had no money in her bank account and no credit cards (I did not give her money...I made her have a friend wire her some). Then she was snappy with my daughter, called my friends snotty, and used my computer to meet a guy on match.com, then went to meet him at a salad buffet and had sex with him all day after telling me he looked nothing like his picture and was boring but got better after a bottle of wine. Oh...and she tried to bring this stranger to my house. Oh, and she said my dog smelled like a dirty crotch, which obviously must have been her own. Oh, and she said she wanted to be a third partner in my marriage.
At my wedding, which I felt obligated to ask her to since she asked me to be the bridesmaid in hers, she told stories to my new family about doing ecstasy and thinking her cat was telling her to kill her husband. She also insinuated to my aunt that I had a drinking problem. Her husband spent the whole time at a casino and left her shortly thereafter since he said she is needy, clingy and an embarassment to bring around his friends and doctor clients.
She called me bawling and guilt tripped me into coming to her wedding a few years ago in the Carribean since none of her other friends or family could afford to go and I was the only one that could. (Then don't have a destination wedding dumbass) Then I had to wear a full length sequin gown in the Caribbean in August. But I had a fun date and I like trips so I went.
Shockingly, this is not the only reason I dislike her. I just find her completely annoying in every way, pushy, and demanding. Something about her just makes my skin crawl. We were only friends due to mutual friends. I haven't called her in years although she calls me and will keep calling over and over until I call back.
The obvious answer here is I need to grow a pair and cut her off. I am allowing her to remain in my life. I have been avoiding her calls for the last 5 months, but she is not getting the hint. It is very easy for me to cut a person out of my life by never speaking to them again. But I struggle a lot with having to TELL someone I do not want to be their friend or talk to them. Her messages are getting desperate, like she NEEDS to talk to me.
I hate to kick someone while they are down (husband left her, she is broke, no money because she quit her job while married even though husband told her not too) but I do not enjoy speaking to her and I do not enjoy her company. I don't think she is going to get the hint and stop calling me. I don't want an apology because I don't want to be her friend.
So how do I do this? Do I just have to tell her that I don't think she has any redeeming qualities and she makes my skin crawl? Do I soften the blow and say she gives me anxiety and I find her friendship to be stressful and full of pressure, but I have just been too nice to confront her until now, and I feel we have gone in different directions? How do I get rid of her??
