How are you breaking the "rules"?

thealphabride · May 2010

Mrswood, your wedding sounds lovely. I as well was married in the courthouse the first time around so my family and friends are really looking forward to sharing this day with me. I have a great group of close girlfriends and we are all in our
50's, Been friends since the 70's. We are all going to the beach for a weekend for my "bachelorette" party and my sisters are giving me a shower.

The man I am marrying is such a prince for going along as he had a big wedding the first time around. He says it's my wedding, although he has helped tremendously with everything and I have consulted him on everything.
He is excited about the wedding too. I can't believe I'm getting married again after all these years of being on my own. Very Exciting.

Ken&Cass · May 2010

I have no wedding party... no Best Man, no Maid of Honor... nada.

My second wedding is actually bigger then my first.

My fiancé is actually getting two wedding bands for me, instead of one.

I am not doing the garter toss (won't even be wearing one), or the bouquet toss (I am forgoing that and giving my bouquet to the longest married couple in an anniversary dance).

Our wedding cake is mostly chocolate.

My stepfather is walking me down the aisle, because I've asked him to even though my dad will still be attending the wedding.

adrianzbride · May 2010

I love all of these! They all sound wonderful. I am getting so many ideas for my own wedding. There are so many things I haven't decided on yet, so I really appreciate hearing all of your plans.

I am planning to wear white or ivory, too, and probably a veil. I didn't wear the veil in my first wedding since it was windy.

Teresa, I like the idea of splitting the bouquet in two and giving half to each mother. I really want to honor our parents in a special way, too. We have a lot though, with all of the step-parents.

Lisa50 · May 2010

I love all of the "rule" breaking. Here are a few ways our wedding will be different than the usual:

Bridal Party. My son (age 18) will be my best man.
Registry. There will be none. We will make contributions to 2 favorite charities in our names. If guests ask about gifts, we will let them know our choice and suggest that instead of giving us a gift, they consider a contribution to one, or both, of the same charities.
Bride's Shoes. I'm going with color, rather than ivory/white, although that's becoming more standard these days, so not quite a rule breaker.
Lodging. We, too, will spend the night before the wedding together, in the same suite we'll be in on our wedding night. *sigh* I'm so excitied and happy to marry this wonderful guy.
Bouquet Toss. NOT!
Garter Toss. NOT! Heck, I didn't even do that at my first wedding. LOL!
Receiving Line. NOT! Do people have those any more?

As many of you have mentioned, I am sure there are other rules we're breaking, but I cannot think of them right now.

Best of luck to everyone!

Erin McCormack · May 2010

Hi Ladies,

     Not sure that I'm breaking any rules, just making it my own. Mom pretty much did my first wedding, I was out of state and just went with the flow. This time I feel like It's my first wedding, so I'm doing a lot of DIY things. My future SIL and I are making apple butter, using the top lable as the escort card in different fall colors, on the table I'll have favor boxes with tea scones in them with a brown satin and organza ribbon. I bought DIY ceremony programs from Michaels. I found simple square vases at Michaels and I'm going to put fall flowers in for the centerpieces. Two wheat bundles tied with fall ribbon on either end of the escort table at the reception to bring in the fall theme.  I' m making velum table number votives that I saw on line and hopefully I can duplicate . .

     For the church I'm going with wheat bundles just on the first two pews and as a surprise to my FI and everyone, in keeping with our Irish heritage, my cousins husband will play the bagpipes as everyone enters the church. (I am so excited about this one)    I also looked up Irish wedding traditions and am going to try to incorporate a few of them into the wedding, ( horseshoe pin on the bouquet for good luck, put a few bows along the path from my home to the church, which will be a bit hard since it's 35 miles to the church LOL..., take a different path leaving the ceremony than going to the ceremony and maybe a few more ).

    I'll be wearing a tea length strapless dress, no veil and hopefully a necklace made up from a ring that used to be my mothers anniversary ring.   No veil, just a simple up do.

   My oldest son will be giving me away and all three of my boy's ( 22,20 &16) will dance with me for our mother son dance. Still haven't found an appropriate song yet. My daughter and my FI's daughter will be our Jr. Bridesmaids. For the most part I'm sticking with tradition, but, definitely having a great time making it my own. This time it's easy, I'm not stressing over anything, it is what it is and I just can't wait to marry him and have a great party.

    All in all as my FI say's I want to get married, have a party and go on a honeymoon.....    It's as simple as that!

robinmichael · May 2010

-fried chicken, biscuits, potato salad, baked beans, need I say more?!
-I am doing dried flowers, they are just as beautiful as fresh and I can make them up looong ahead of time, also in keeping with the southern antebellum mansion we are being married at
-decorating with family quilts and vintage quilt patches will be at every plave setting that I will make into a quilt after the wedding
-no bouquet or garter toss, I agree that it is embarrassing and we won't have many singles
-no tuxes for these rough rednecks, I promised them they could wear dark brown pants, ivory shirts, and different green patterned ties
and the best part....drumroll please.........
I will be walking down the aisle to Vanessa Williams, "Saved the Best for Last"!!!!!
even if it is cheesy!!!!

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