A song to play during the "wine box" ceremony

Re: A song to play during the "wine box" ceremony

• princess pop member

  

  February 2013

  I don't know what a wine box ceremony is, exactly, but I assume it has meaningful connotation. A song that is sentimental to you might be good?

  
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• Lazynella member

  

  February 2013

  Awsome TXkristan

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• mrsbobfilson member

  

  February 2013 edited February 2013

  While there are so many traditions that a couple can incorporate into their wedding vows, such as the Unity Candle, The Rose
  Exchange, and many more, there is one special idea that I learned about from my dear friend, Richard Carson (Thanks Rich!) who
  attended a wedding in Holland.  While he was not sure if it was a Dutch tradition, nor did he know the wording for this particular
  ceremony (to which I created my own.) he found it to be extremely touching.  When he returned to the states, he could not wait to share
  this with me.  Basically the JP or officiant asks the couple getting married to find a strong wooden box that will hold two bottles of wine
  and two wine glasses.  The couple is then asked to each write a letter to one another, expressing their thoughts about the good qualities
  that they found in their future partner and their reasons for falling in love with each other.  Under no condition can they read each other’
  s letter.  They are to seal them and put them in the box with the wine and glasses.  Upon finalizing the wedding ceremony, the officiant
  will announce to the guests that he / she had asked the couple to write letters to each other and put them in the box with the wine and
  glasses.  The officiant will explain that should the couple ever find their marriage in serious trouble, before making any irrational
  decisions, they must open the box, drink wine together, and read the letter that they wrote to one another to reflect on why they fell in
  love with each other in the first place. The hope is that there will never be a reason to have to open the box, unless of course, it is for a
  10th year anniversary! (This is not meant to have a negative tone by any means as some may perceive it to be.   It is meant to only be
  positive and in my ceremonies is worded as such.  In this day and age, it is only "too common" to give up too easily in a marriage -- Just
  take a look at Hollywood.) At the wedding in Holland, members of the wedding party were handed nails to hammer the box shut.  
  However, I do not use the hammer and nails, and ask the couple to just close the box or latch it instead of using a hammer and nails.)
  This is only a suggestion, but I just think that it makes the ceremony extra special for the couple.
  
  Truthfully, I find this to be the most romantic (and coolest!) addition to incorporate into a marriage ceremony.  .  And I simply cannot express enough
  just how much it is better to NOT TELL YOUR GUEST / FAMILY MEMBERS / WEDDING PARTY that you are doing this!  Every ceremony
  that I have officiated over with this being incorporated into their vows has been nothing but a huge surprise and hit!  People actually
  cry.  They are overwhelmed and pleased to have been a witness to something so unique and different at a wedding ceremony.
  
  My clients have been extremely creative with their boxes by putting foam inside to raise up and support their wine glasses and their
  wine.  They have also lined the inside with satin or silk material.  Not only have they put their letters to each other, their wine and their
  glasses, in their box, but they included CDs of their favorite music, favorite pictures of themselves together, etc.  One ceremony that I
  officiated over had every member of their wedding party also put a letter in the box expressing their feelings about the couple.  Having
  said that, I am always excited about seeing each and every box when I arrive at their ceremony.  They are always uniquely made. One
  couple turned their box into a coffee table made out of three different kinds of wood.

  

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• ethadiva

  

  March 2013

  That's an awesome idea.  Has anyone used this in their wedding? If so what is said at the ceremony itself and where does it fit into the timing of the ceremony?

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