So here is what I was thinking. Since our families have never met, I was going to do a mixer the night before the wedding (everyone gets in earlier the day before the wedding) However, I was suppose to have the rehearsal dinner the night before for just the WP and parents (not the whole family) So I moved the rehearsal dinner to a reharsal brunch, but no one can get off work for it! Soooo, i decided to do the rehearsal dinner and famil mixer as one. But so I won't have to pay for everyone (about 70 ppl) I am going to pay just for the WP. But so there won't be any confusion or anything about it and to make things easier and smoother, I was going to buy gift cards to the restuarant that it's at and give them to the WP members. and that way they can order whatever they want and they will have the gift card to go towards their meal. Is this ghetto?
Re: Is this ghetto/off
I think its fine to invite folks to a get-together & not pay, but the key is to let them know ahead of time. For our rehearsal dinner, we are only paying for the WP & parents. However, we've got 4 wedding attendants & their parents and siblings will be in attendance as well. But we are not paying for their parents & siblings. The parents HAVE TO be at the rehearsal & dinner cause we're not babysitting...lol. The parents are aware of this.
It doesn't have to be anything fancy and can be done at someone's house. Perhaps your parents? Just get some waffles, ready-made french toast and assign someone to fry up some eggs. Get some juice and you're good to go. Depending on where you choose to have it, you could get away with spending $200 - $300 for the entire family brunch.
Hope that helps.
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[QUOTE]I wouldn't do it. Another option (depending on when you leave for your honeymoon) is to have your RD as planned for your WP and close family. <strong><font color="#ff0000">Then have a morning after brunch for both families.</font></strong> We had one on Sunday and it was awesome. It doesn't have to be anything fancy and can be done at someone's house. Perhaps your parents? Just get some waffles, ready-made french toast and assign someone to fry up some eggs. Get some juice and you're good to go. Depending on where you choose to have it, you could get away with spending $200 - $300 for the entire family brunch. Hope that helps.
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We are doing this at a local bistro-type place...
Ditto tahaira82.
We have so many oot guests coming, we decided to do a meet n greet/rehearsal dinner on the eve of the wedding. Since FI's immediate family hasn't even thought about ponying up some dinero for the rd, it's all on us. Thank God his niece by marriage has offered to chip in as a wedding gift.
We are doing pasta, salad, sweet tea, and cupcakes.
Since all of my immediate family except my older sister was from out-of-state, we did a combo rehearsal dinner/family meet and greet. We only had a best man and matron-of-honor (who happen to live out of state too) for our WP so we held it at DH's mom's home. It worked out well - the two families had a chance to meet (our parents hadn't met before) in a more relaxed atmosphere. DH also had the opportunity to cook for everyone which always makes him happy.
If your wedding party isn't large and if you all know someone whose home can accomodate 70 people this could be an option.