Money Dance Song

Gismo123 · October 2010

I've been to a few weddings that did this dance and it was fun but I'm debating if I want to do this or not....I don't want people to think I'm trying to hangle them for money or something lol Has anyone done this dance before and when during your wedding did you have it?

SaraAndrew2010 · October 2010

You'll find that most people on this board are really against money dances and think they are super tacky. If you don't want people to think you are trying to hangle(?) them for money, don't have a dance where you ask them to give you money. It's pretty simple. If the money dance isn't something that done at every single wedding in your circle, a lot of peopl are going to be turned off by it.

redheadfsu · October 2010

If you have only seen it a few times, it doesn't sound normal for your family/circle of friends. If you aren't sure people expect it, then don't do it.

zitiqueen · October 2010

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_poll-think-money-dance-sticky-thread-warranted

trix1223 · October 2010

What's hangle? But ditto pp. If this is not typically done in your family circle, then don't do it. Actually, from my POV, if it IS typically done in your family circle, still don't do it.

I married into a family that ALWAYS has a $$ dance, and we just said no. The family still likes me. Well, I think they do.

Neither our son nor DD had $$ dances at their weddings either.

I vote to skip it.

Ashes_3 · October 2010

We went to one that did it and you could tell some ppl felt uncomfortable.

Emerol · October 2010

I have heard that it is in fact a Greek tradition, so it may be acceptable within that culture but otherwise is generally seen as offputting.

Emerol · October 2010

I have heard that it is in fact a Greek tradition, so it may be acceptable within that culture but otherwise is generally seen as offputting.

snowflake350 · October 2010

Don't skip the money dance just because some people on here think it is tacky, think about what is right for you and ask your family and close friends what they think and if they've seen it a lot. The money dance is a tradition in my family and it is always a great time. The last wedding I went to, the groom was hispanic and they had a money dance and it went on for a good 20 minutes because everyone was having such a great time. I was later told it was a big hispanic tradition. So it seems to be tradition in many families. In fact every money dance I've seen (both from family weddings and friend weddings) have turned out very well. Just know your guest.

kathrynhabibti · October 2010

I've always found the money dance to be really anticlimactic as far as spending time with the bride and groom.... you only get to dance with them for about 30 seconds.

ootmother2 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_money-dance-song?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:e74f37ac-49a1-4cd5-a402-b0b25c155941Post:e508b9d6-bff5-4ce8-ab69-991ed7ec7479">Re: Money Dance Song</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for the advice I think we will skip it I don't want people to feel pressured I just want everyone to havea good time :)
Posted by Gismo123[/QUOTE]

Good thinking :)

I've attended exactly ONE wedding with a dollar dance. The bride was of Polish descent and the groom was of Italian descent. It was a matter of custom & tradition.

If you have to ask, you shouldn't do it.

Gismo123 · October 2010

No I said I've seen it before....only at friend's wedding though not at any family weddings. My FI is Peruvian and I don't think it's a hispanic family tradition in his family either as I've attended a wedding for his cousin and they didn't have it. I do like the fact you get to dance with different people....I'm trying to think of a way to do the dance without the money part.....I think I read somewhere before that some couple collected notes instead of money....you know like wishing the couple happy times, etc....

aerinpegadrak · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_money-dance-song?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:e74f37ac-49a1-4cd5-a402-b0b25c155941Post:4c065974-1299-43ef-8c33-9f1fc84188f0">Re: Money Dance Song</a>:
[QUOTE]No I said I've seen it before....only at friend's wedding though not at any family weddings. My FI is Peruvian and I don't think it's a hispanic family tradition in his family either as I've attended a wedding for his cousin and they didn't have it. I do like the fact you get to dance with different people....I'm trying to think of a way to do the dance without the money part.....I think I read somewhere before that some couple collected notes instead of money....you know like wishing the couple happy times, etc....
Posted by Gismo123[/QUOTE]
- Provide slips of paper for people to write advice/well wishes on and take those in exchange for the dance
- Provide bowls of chocolate coins, Hershey kisses, or other individually wrapped candies for the guests to snack on, and let them give you those in exchange for the dance
- The bride and groom each have a sack/bowl of said candies (or even possibly whatever your favor is), and give one to each guest in exchange for the dance
- Nothing changes hands, the DJ simply announces that anyone who would like to dance with the bride and/or the groom may request to do so during the next few songs

There are plenty of ways to adapt the tradition while removing the problematic element, which is the money.

kxp004 · October 2010

you could always donate the money you collect to a charity that you support... that way it's for a good cause and might make it less uncomfortable

Enjoy whichever choice you choose!

trix1223 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_money-dance-song?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:e74f37ac-49a1-4cd5-a402-b0b25c155941Post:04b85fb5-01dc-4c29-8b53-ca209a5498a6">Re: Money Dance Song</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>you could always donate the money you collect to a charity that you support...</strong> that way it's for a good cause and might make it less uncomfortable :) Enjoy whichever choice you choose!
Posted by kxp004[/QUOTE]

A wedding should not ever be a fundraiser for a charity, no matter how "worthy" the cause. Please don't do this.

janicejab · October 2010

I think it's up to you. If you're concerned about seeming like you are begging for money, you could try a couple of things. First, you could announce that you'll donate the money to a good cause. You could also try making fake money with you and your groom on it and leave a few "dollars" at each table. That way, you still get to dance with everyone, but no real money is involved.

kmartini1021 · October 2010

I always thought/was told it's a Polish custom, and to be more polite, don't call it the money dance. Call it the Apron dance. Makes it a little less tacky. The MOH wears an apron and collects money in the pockets from people who want to dance with the bride or groom. I'm polish but I plan to pass on this tradition.

Gismo123 · October 2010

I sort of like the chocolate money idea lol I can totally see my nieces getting back in line over and over again just to get the chocolcate coins lol

Ximena M · October 2010

I agree, this is a great time to talk with the bride or groom. I have a large family and if it wasn't for the money dance I would have never had the time to to wish family members well.

kiwona · April 2011

We are doing the money dance. My sister did it her wedding and we pinned the money on her and husband we had a great time. We made it last longer just because we were having soooo much fun. but do what you feel is right for you and yours.

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