I need to get this out before we have another meeting and I end up spewing all sorts of things that I'm going to regret.
I had really high expectations for our priest. During mass he is incredibly fun, gracious and kind. He has been an inspiration to my family all of whom had become disenchanted with the catholic church, but he brought them back to the community. So here we are planning our wedding and I'm psyched that we get to talk to this person.
Our experience, although not completely negative, has been predominately negative. I won't bore you all to tears but here are a few direct quotes:
"I'm going to question you separately so I know you aren't lying to me."
"I like watching couples fight, it's much more entertaining than watching you two talk rationally."
"You aren't allowed to take the quiz together because you will cheat."
Are you kidding me? Here we are trusting in you and confiding in you and you can't trust us to be in the same room. And as far as thinking that maybe he is being sarcastic, FI is incredibly sarcastic and he was offended by those comments, they came without a smile without a joke, completely straight faced. So if he meant them to be sarcastic the delivery was awful. I know I'm overreacting a bit, but I am so frustrated and I'm really losing faith in this process.
Not only that, after being given Together for Life, I found myself unhappy with some of the reading options. I brought in a couple other passages to run by him in hopes that he would find one of them acceptable. He found issues with each one. So I asked what other couples used outside of the book and he said something along the lines of "just look through the bible and bring in what you like and we can talk about it." I already did that! You just shot me down! I'm so over it. We haven't even talked about the seating situation (if you missed that post he wants the bride and groom to be seated separately for the whole mass until the vows are read). That will not happen. Ugh! Thanks for listening. I'm really at a loss of what to do. But I feel better just getting it off my chest.