I know I have been on these boards, and I have gotten a few responses that call me tacky (for a darn tradition I am trying to figure out if I am keeping)
This is one gianormous rant. Sorry
I am tired of everyone telling us how to run our wedding... and telling us that they want us to invite tons of people because it's so and so from work. when they aren't paying... at all.
then, my FMIL is getting on my nerves like none other.
-she found out my credit is recovering from identity theft and is now not letting her son or I forget it... telling us we need to do this before my credit puts his in the toilet (which would be true if we were in her state... but last I check IL isn't a shared credit state)
-She found out how much our plates are. and CONSTANTLY reminds us that it would be cheaper to do it in Wisconsin... but neither of us live there now
-She wants us to get married so we "stay safe" aka don't do it before the wedding.
-She wants her son to move home (5 hours from me) and do stuff around the house. (the story behind that is that he was about to get out of the Marine Corps... then when he met me and decided to live by me- unfortunately she had projects lined up for him that "he was going to do then decided to not come home"... but he never agreed to do any of it)
-after the first time we met... she said "it's like you aren't even my son anymore"
-now she talks to me yesterday and asks if I'd be willing to move if we found jobs elsewhere... we're CHicago area... he's going into plane mechanics (his MOS in the MC) and I am a programmer... I believe we can find jobs here. but she proceeded to call me a Momma's girl.
Granted the last time I went to see her, she was telling me how her son likes his head rubbed, and other ways to calm him down. I bit my tongue to not say... "I know how to calm him down, I have to do it everytime you call"
-she is deciding who we are to invite, stating "well we need to save you money." it is our choice to invite whp we invite... yet she is pushing the fact that we should have kids there (which we don't want)
My Mother:
- I love her. but she has her ideas about the wedding. they do not match mine
- she is getting on my FH's nerves... I am trying to keep her from doing so (unlike my FH is with his mom... but I am talking with him about that soon because I haven't brought it up which is my fault)
-she doesn't want my girls to have red flowers since they have blue dresses, but I think that since it's a Marine's wedding (and he's wearing his blues) we should honor that blood stripe and have the darn red
-she is constantly telling me my ideas are stupid or I overthink things.
-She has all these things in her mind that apparently I am supposed to know (like the fact that I don't get my own garters or guest book or toasting flutes.) then gets upset when I don't know
-she is telling us we are paying too much for the photographer we are getting... so I went behind her back, signed a contract and will pretend to be interested and looking at a bridal expo... then afterwards say "I'm going with Modern Image.")
I realize I am probably just in a bad mood and every mother and MIL probably does this...
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