I have a friend that is getting married about a week before me. She invites me to everything & we do the same, however she NEVER attends anything we invite her to, but we frequently go to her events. In all seriousness, she's NEVER attended anything we invite her to. We usually (80%) go to things she invites us to.
She RSVP'ed no immediately to our wedding, which obviosuly upset me because its 6 days after hers & I know she is not going on her honeymoon then. It's slightly spiteful, but i also RSVP'ed no to her wedding. I'm just tired of her not attending things that we invite her to. It is really rude of her.
I feel "obligated" to send her something for the wedding. I just don't know how much to spend.
What would you do???
Re: not attending wedding...what to give?
However, give it a few days, take a few deep breaths...and I would say get her what you would normally give based on finances and such.
Maybe from now on, you'll think twice about inviting her to things.
on a side note, how are you "friends" with someone who never comes when you invite her?
I was bummed my friend and her H RSVP'd no to our wedding... it's father's day weekend and her H's dad lives in NYC (and he owns lots of properties where they could stay) so I figured it would be no problem for them. And we spent ~$500 to go to her wedding in Chicago last year. They did send us a ~$175 gift from the registry though.
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When my cousin in Michigan got married I sent her an inexpensive cookbook with recipes of traditional local foods from New Orleans and a couple of other kitchen goodies from a souvenir shop here...I think a pot holder or oven mitt was one of the things. Maybe you could do something similar with a Chicago vibe? Or if you know she's into different appetizers or desserts or etc? So it would be thoughtful without you spending a lot of money.
[QUOTE]An invitation is not an invoice. You aren't required to give a gift whether you attend or not - and it doesn't sound as if you're that close. Send her a nice card.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
This is sassy, but true.
It doesn't sound like you are that close. I wouldn't go out of my way to send a gift. Besides, those who don't attend the wedding don't have to give a gift. A nice note of congratulations is more than enough.
[QUOTE]When my cousin in Michigan got married I sent her an inexpensive cookbook with recipes of traditional local foods from New Orleans and a couple of other kitchen goodies from a souvenir shop here...I think a pot holder or oven mitt was one of the things. Maybe you could do something similar with a Chicago vibe? Or if you know she's into different appetizers or desserts or etc? So it would be thoughtful without you spending a lot of money.
Posted by meganb1977[/QUOTE]
Excellent idea! :) I agree