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abw0601 · March 2012

Yeah, I'm about 5 minutes short of moving on. I have other things to focus on and if FI doesn't give a hoot, I guess I shouldn't be so peeved that his family treats him that way.

sparent2010 · March 2012

This is my whole take on this craziness. Get over it: life is not perfect.

chelseamb11 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvps-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:82bab4aa-7ad8-49c1-b7cc-d3e8e92d14f9Post:24f9e5ad-846a-4bb1-b5f5-7364b0c8c1d2">Re: RSVPs</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm so confused. Your wedding is the 31st? And someone knew this past Thursday (the 15th?) that they have a funeral on the 31st? That's weird. Then again, this whole post is off it's rocker.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

That's what I was thinking.
But at this point, even if his family treats him like crap ad is crazy, doesn't mean you need to combat it with crazy. You want him to have a normal loving family? Guess what. You're about to start one! So start it on a good foot and stop acting like this. Be the bigger person and accept that they look like the assholes. If you bring yourself down to their level, then you look like an asshole too and then your FI is right where he was the day before he met you: surrounded by crazies in his life.

lyndausvi · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvps-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:82bab4aa-7ad8-49c1-b7cc-d3e8e92d14f9Post:24f9e5ad-846a-4bb1-b5f5-7364b0c8c1d2">Re: RSVPs</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm so confused. Your wedding is the 31st? And someone knew this past Thursday (the 15th?) that they have a funeral on the 31st? That's weird. Then again, this whole post is off it's rocker.
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

<div>Until I moved to the Virgin Islands I would have said the same thing. Down there funerals are 2-3 weeks after a death in order to OOT people to attend easier. So while I agree it's a little odd, it's not completely unheard of either. DH's grandmother's funeral in NY was a month later because it was more convenient for some family members.</div><div>
</div><div>OP - Sure, send a bill. I mean what is stopping you? However if I was one of those guests I would laugh if I received something like that in the mail. What if they don't pay? Are you going to take them to court? </div><div>
</div><div>FWIW- We had 4 true no shows and 6 others who had to cancel the week for various reasons. Comes with the territory when planning a party. Get over it.</div>

ElisabethJoanne · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rsvps-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:82bab4aa-7ad8-49c1-b7cc-d3e8e92d14f9Post:5d109364-effd-4d95-b32b-2621607611d4">Re: RSVPs</a>:
[QUOTE]It would be nice, wouldn't it? I had 11 people not show up. 3 of them were due to a family emergency, so they're exempt. 1 couple emailed me on a Tuesday that they wouldn't be attending my Sunday wedding because the wife wasn't feeling well. Really? You know that far in advance that you wont be feeling well? Here's your invoice. The others simply didn't show. I've never gotten a reason why from any of them. Invoices are in the mail!
Posted by MrsKathyC[/QUOTE]

Obviously, it depends on the illness. My mother is ill right now, and we're cancelling social engagements into May. We'd explain the whole situation to most people who'd invite us to their wedding, but it'd depend on the family.

ceh789 · March 2012

Invoices are so inefficient. Show up at their door and demand cash. Bring a weapon.

mkrupar · March 2012

I've actually lost the invitation to my cousin's wedding in June. We got that thing in JANUARY with an RSPV date of sometime this month (I think). I'm just kind of waiting for the "Are you coming phone call" to tell her no. We've had so much upheaval and the move, that that invitation is probably long gone.

Just another reason why invitations shouldn't go out so farking early.

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