Last Names on Invitations...

alyelcalil · March 2013

Well, my first experience on The Knot was so pleasant. Glad I signed up.

Sierra524 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]Well, my first experience on The Knot was so pleasant. Glad I signed up.
Posted by alyelcalil[/QUOTE]

Nobody here is going to justify your PPD since they are rude and tacky. When you post on these forums you have to have a thick skin, as you are going to get alot of opnions & wont always agree with them.

alyelcalil · March 2013

Honestly, I didn't want it to be a "re-do" wedding....I WANTED it to be a vow renewal. My apologies for not wording my original question correctly. I should have just omitted the word "ceremony"; that is my mistake. I am not a wedding veteran like so many on The Knot obviously are. Obviously I should have proofread that, but I didn't have time because you all just jumped on me. The whole point of this is so that my friends and family could be there....because they are the ones who wanted us to do this in the first place. I'm not an attention whore that just wants her "PPD" (which is a ridiculous term because I can't stop thinking about tuberculosis). It's hardly about that. I don't even want to spend a lot of money (since we are paying for 90% of it), I don't want it to be flashy, I don't want flowers, I don't want it to be about me. I want it to be about US, reaffirming our love, in front of people that want to be there. And yes, they do want to be there. I have people asking to be invited if they aren't already. I hardly think people that are ASKING to be there find it rude. Or else why even ask?

YES I GET IT. I'm not a bride. AND I WON'T BE. There will be no "giving away" by my father. I plan on walking with my husband, side by side. And to be honest, I will wear what I want. No, not the great big huge sparkly white dress (I was never really into the whole poofy prom thing)...but it will be white, and beautiful, and reflect who I am. This is 2013. Not everything is done traditionally. People just need to get over that.

Does this meet your approval? Or am I still just a spoiled brat who wants a PPD. Oh and since we never had a honeymoon, we will be taking one that month. Is that rude too??? Please, I am begging for your advice.
And no, to answer whomever asked about a shower...I do not plan on having a shower. I don't even want gifts. Everyone being there with us is enough for me. Especially when we live on opposite coasts and don't get to see anyone. Ever.

NYCMercedes · March 2013

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[QUOTE]Honestly, I didn't want it to be a "re-do" wedding....I WANTED it to be a vow renewal. My apologies for not wording my original question correctly. I should have just omitted the word "ceremony"; that is my mistake. I am not a wedding veteran like so many on The Knot obviously are. Obviously I should have proofread that, but I didn't have time because you all just jumped on me. The whole point of this is so that my friends and family could be there....because they are the ones who wanted us to do this in the first place. I'm not an attention whore that just wants her "PPD" (which is a ridiculous term because I can't stop thinking about tuberculosis). It's hardly about that. I don't even want to spend a lot of money (since we are paying for 90% of it), I don't want it to be flashy, I don't want flowers, I don't want it to be about me. I want it to be about US, reaffirming our love, in front of people that want to be there. And yes, they do want to be there. I have people asking to be invited if they aren't already. I hardly think people that are ASKING to be there find it rude. Or else why even ask? YES I GET IT. I'm not a bride. AND I WON'T BE. There will be no "giving away" by my father. I plan on walking with my husband, side by side. And to be honest, I will wear what I want. No, not the great big huge sparkly white dress (I was never really into the whole poofy prom thing)...but it will be white, and reflect who I am. Does this meet your approval? Or am I still just a spoiled brat who wants a PPD. Oh and since we never had a honeymoon, we will be taking one that month. Is that rude too??? Please, I am begging for your advice. And no, to answer whomever asked about a shower...I do not plan on having a shower. I don't even want gifts. Everyone being there with us is enough for me. Especially when we live on opposite coasts and don't get to see anyone. Ever.
Posted by alyelcalil[/QUOTE]

Sounds lovely.

beardownbchs · March 2013

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[QUOTE]Honestly, I didn't want it to be a "re-do" wedding....I WANTED it to be a vow renewal. My apologies for not wording my original question correctly. I should have just omitted the word "ceremony"; that is my mistake. I am not a wedding veteran like so many on The Knot obviously are. Obviously I should have proofread that, but I didn't have time because you all just jumped on me. The whole point of this is so that my friends and family could be there....because they are the ones who wanted us to do this in the first place. I'm not an attention whore that just wants her "PPD" (which is a ridiculous term because I can't stop thinking about tuberculosis). It's hardly about that. I don't even want to spend a lot of money (since we are paying for 90% of it), I don't want it to be flashy, I don't want flowers, I don't want it to be about me. I want it to be about US, reaffirming our love, in front of people that want to be there. And yes, they do want to be there. I have people asking to be invited if they aren't already. I hardly think people that are ASKING to be there find it rude. Or else why even ask? YES I GET IT. I'm not a bride. AND I WON'T BE. There will be no "giving away" by my father. I plan on walking with my husband, side by side. And to be honest, I will wear what I want. No, not the great big huge sparkly white dress (I was never really into the whole poofy prom thing)...but it will be white, and beautiful, and reflect who I am. This is 2013. <strong>Not everything is done traditionally</strong>. People just need to get over that. Does this meet your approval? Or am I still just a spoiled brat who wants a PPD. Oh and since we never had a honeymoon, we will be taking one that month. Is that rude too??? Please, I am begging for your advice. And no, to answer whomever asked about a shower...I do not plan on having a shower. I don't even want gifts. Everyone being there with us is enough for me. Especially when we live on opposite coasts and don't get to see anyone. Ever.
Posted by alyelcalil[/QUOTE]

Tradition and etiquette are not synonymous.

Aside from the ceremony and bridal party, I think your plan sounds nice. Had you said this from the beginning, most of us would have agreed. Instead you whined about how you "deserve" to have a wedding. We only know what you tell us.

Ro041 · March 2013

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry but I disagree. I never got to wear the white gown, have bridesmaids...I didn't have the experience of a wedding that every girl wants. I PLAN on having a ceremony, we never got to give our family a ceremony or reception and not to be rude but I really don't care what your opinion on that is. I just wanted input on the invitations. Just the invitations. Ok, so I won't call it a renewal, whatever, that is fine. But I am still having the experience. I don't see why I don't deserve that? And, in my eyes, it is quite fitting to call it a renewal...because we had a bumpy first year of marriage lol. We have resolved our problems, things are slowly getting better, we love each other, so I think of it as kind of a fresh start. So to speak. Renewing our love. What is wrong with that?
Posted by alyelcalil[/QUOTE]

<div>This kind of ish really gets under my skin. My sister had a JOP ceeremony at 20 while she was preggers with her second kid (stressful situation which would create a bumpy first few years of marriage? I think so!). After the JOP <em>ceremony</em>, we all went to Applebee's to celebrate. They have been married for NINE years now! She never trapsed around in a white dress with bridesmaids and her marriage is just as real as every other one.</div><div>
</div><div>I may be beating a dead horse here, but I think you should have a party to celebrate your marriage (because everyone <em>deserves</em> to have a party), but don't make it look like wedding. Because it's not a wedding. </div>

beachek · March 2013

this thread makes me want to end it.

these ladies are right, sorry to say. don't wear a wedding dress, it's weird. just wear a fun party dress, or even a formal dress. and have a fun party to celebrate. everyone loves a good party.

i originally had planned to have my ceremony three weeks before our party/reception/whatever you want to call it. mostly, because i can't get legally married in PA. but we moved it to the same day and i feel so much better. you get one day. who wants to be married for three weeks, a year, a month then have "another" wedding. it's weird.

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