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Opinions please! Heirloom vs. your own ring!
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been looking at rings together for a few months now.I gave him ideas and he pretty much has designed a hybrid of some of the pictures I've shown him. He does well salary wise and wanted to get me the setting I wanted, but with an apx 1.5 C round center stone. I've told him that it isn't at all necessary to go that big or spend that much since we are trying to buy a house and get married.
However, his mother and father have told us just recently that she has her engagement ring and 10 year anniversary rings that she was planning on giving to her sons as engagement rings (She's upgrading to something much larger). She has very different taste than me (I like simple and elegant, she likes big and flashy). My boyfriend is concerned and we are torn between me having my own ring or just taking her stones and/or just the center stone (which is still just above a carat and is completely perfect w/ only 1 very minimal flaw). I told him I'd be happy with whatever he chose to do, it's the meaning of the ring. I also told him that if she passes it down to me, then we can keep the tradition going as well if he chose.
So....opinions please!! Heirloom or original ring that was chosen??
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Re: Opinions please! Heirloom vs. your own ring!
The stone is 70% of the cost of the ring and could save you a lot of money.
That would be my choice.
[QUOTE]Can't you take her stone and adjust the ring you're designing to fit it? The stone is 70% of the cost of the ring and could save you a lot of money. That would be my choice.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
THIS!!
That seems like an easy thing to do and it's very wise.
You can have the ring you want and not have to worry about the stone, because you already have one!
You should definitely talk to your BF and his parents and see if that's OK.
[QUOTE]Can't you take her stone and adjust the ring you're designing to fit it? The stone is 70% of the cost of the ring and could save you a lot of money. That would be my choice.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
Ditto. This is what we did.....saved us a TON of money AND I got an heirloom to pass on to my kids.
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[QUOTE]Can't you take her stone and adjust the ring you're designing to fit it? The stone is 70% of the cost of the ring and could save you a lot of money. That would be my choice.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
Definitely this!
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[QUOTE]Can't you take her stone and adjust the ring you're designing to fit it? The stone is 70% of the cost of the ring and could save you a lot of money. That would be my choice.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
I love this idea! Wish my mom still had her ring laying around for me one day lol
Good luck & congrats!
[QUOTE]If his mother doesn't mind you using just the diamond and trashing the setting, it's a great compromise. It'll probably be plenty big enough for you since it doesn't sound like you're a "2 ct or bust" type. It'll be a way to save money while also carrying on a tradition and honoring his parents.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
THIS. I wouldnt want to use the diamond if she wanted to keep the style of her ring but if she doesn't mind - free diamond!
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Good luck!
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If you CAN save money, why wouldn't you? (As long as, as Cate pointed out, your BF's mom approves of re-setting the diamond how YOU like.)