bridesmaid to young for bachlorette party?

NicciSal91 · April 2010

my 15 yr old sister will be one of my bms. i want her to be included but also dont want her to see anything she should if you know what i mean. my moh already confirmed that might be a problem. what should i do?

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

If your MOH is hosting the b-party, you go to MOH and you tell her that your sister is a BM, and that whatever she plans will need to be appropriate for all ages so that your sister can be included.

ces25c · April 2010

If your MOH really wants to go out and party or get you a stripper or whatever, you could have a dinner party and play bachelorette games (appropriate ones at least!) so your sister is included, then go out later or a different night. If you aren't big on partying or don't want your sister to be left out of any part, just make sure your MOH knows everything needs to be all-ages.

banana468 · April 2010

I would say, "Hey, I don't want to butt in but it's really important to me that anything planned can include my sister. "

Then leave it to her. I'd have issues with the MOH if she planned something that wasn't inclusive of all the bridesmaids.

megk8oz · April 2010

Since not only is this one of your BMs, but it's your own sister, the MOH really should be trying to make sure she can be included. Why does the actual bach party have to be all wild and crazy? Can't you just have a fun girls night and if your MOH insists on a night of questionable activities, just do it another night (And not call it your bach)? I mean, you obviously can't plan your own party, but I do think in the case of making sure that it's age appropriate for all of your BMs, I don't think it's wrong to step in a give a guideline or 2 ("No strippers" isn't a terrible request).

FWIW, when my friend got married 2 years ago, her MOH (her sister) was 20 and another BM (her cousin) was 15. The bride pretty much told all the BMs that if anybody wanted to throw a bach party, the 2 of them had to be included. It wound up being planned by me (I'm incredibly shy when it comes to wild stuff anyway) and the MOH. We all went to the movies, then to dinner and followed it up with Cosmic Bowling. Everybody had a blast, and nobody was left out.

trix1223 · April 2010

B-parties don't have to be booze fueled sex romps. Tell your MOH that unless the b-party is appropriate for your sister, you'll be declining the "honor" and going out to dinner with your sister.

saxy414 · April 2010

I agree with Meg--"no strippers" is not an unreasonable request. Tell your MOH that you would like your sister to be included (as she should be), so that's going to put a few limitations on what can go on during your bach party. She may just be so influenced by the "traditional" bachelorette party she's not thinking of all the options. You can still watch movies, go to dinner, play games, go bowling, laser tagging, etc, and have a blast--just tell your MOH that you can all plan a "big girls night out" a little later.

susieq87 · April 2010

I was ONE MONTH away from being 21 when my brother got married. His fiance, now my sister in law, made sure there was a pre-party planned that I could attend since I obviously couldn't go down the city with the rest of the girls. I understood that it was still her party, and that made me happy to just have the time with her that I could at the pre-party.

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