Wedding Party

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  • edited September 2010
    I think your wife is over reacting.  You are correct, there is no rule that says you can only have one flower girl.  However, the bride chose her sister to be flower girl.  You, yourself, said you can't fault her for that. 

    Maybe your brother and his fiance didn't want to put the extra burden on you and your wife of having to purchase flower girl attire.  Really.  I think your wife is being petty by sending your daughter on a playdate instead of taking her to the wedding.

    EDIT:  Also, this is not a crisis.  Calm down.
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  • Her sibling and his child were asked to be in the wedding. It's not like they're favoring other nieces and nephews over your own kids.


    Your wife is overreacting. And this is absolutely NOT a crisis, so quit calling it that.

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  • Your wife needs to have a margarita and calm the eff down.  Having your child not be a flower girl is not the end of the world.
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  • Sorry, but I think she needs to get over it.  I understand that your wife's feelings may be hurt & she's disappointed, but it's completely up to the bride & groom-to-be who's in the wedding party.  I REALLY REALLY hope that your daughter going on a playdate isn't "payback" for her not being in the wedding & that she (your daughter)wasn't involved in the discussion about the wedding party.
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  • Your daughter wouldn't have been heartbroken if your wife hadn't made a big deal out of it. If your daughter had been told "We're going to Aunt x and Uncle y's wedding - isn't that great?" instead of "wow - I can't believ Aunt x and Uncle y didn't ask you to be a flower girl, that's awful. How horrible of them to treat you that way."  she wouldn't know the difference.

    Your wife needs to chill and you need to put your foot down. Your daughter is to young to make this decision. She goes where you tell her and you  need to tell her she will go to the wedding, she will behave and be pleasant.  She's 6, she doesn't make these choices, you do. She makes choices like - "would you like catup on your fries" but not whether she goes to her uncle's wedding or not.  Be the adult, be the parent.  Or is this how you want her to live her life, she's learning it now. If someone displeases her she goes away in a fit?

    Good grief.
  • If you weren't included in your brother's wedding, then why on earth are you guys surprised that your daughter wasn't, either?

    Why isn't your wife also pissed that your son isn't included?


    Why aren't you guys teaching your daughter that she can't always get what she wants?


    You all need to relax.

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  • I can understand how you are hurt. It really sucks that they didn't include you but there isn't really anything you can do about it. Their wedding party is their decision. It would be rude to ask why you aren't in the wedding. Just try to relax about this and take it as lesson learned.

    Could they still be a little pissed that you had everything planned with your own wedding but took off and eloped? It seems like there is something else going on here because of what you've said. Your brother lived with you, his son goes on trips with you, etc? You guys sound close...what happened? It doesn't seem like your brother considers you that close.
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  • I just saw your last post. I don't disagree with you about your child. If she doesn't want to attend because it will make her upset then so be it. Now if she were just doing it to be a brat, that's another thing. From what you've said though, she sounds upset about not being included which is understandable in my book.
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  • Hmmm, I don't really understand their decision then. Well all you can do now is just handle the situation that has presented itself. Be bummed but just put it in the past and continue on with your life. Later they will look back on this day and regret not having you be in the wedding...which is completely on them and not you.
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  • Well maybe that's why they didn't include him...he pouts if things don't go his way apparently!
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  • Well there's a surprise.

    Oh and BTW, nobody believes that you're actually the "husband" in this situation.  It's very obvious that you're the wife and you just didn't want everyone tearing you a new one.  Too bad, your plan failed.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_flower-girl-question-please-crisis?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:7056c1e9-a0a2-40cf-8718-724fd77ecbe5Post:d8ce5e72-1882-44a8-a2b9-273f1e5d8236">Re: 1</a>:
    [QUOTE]Deleting your posts is lame and childish.  Just for the record.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

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  • Maybe this is why your brother doesn't want to include you and your family in his wedding.
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  • I do not know why my posts have been deleted.  I can assure you I am the Husband in this situation.  Maybe you ladies, and that term shall be used ever so lightly, should take a step back and lighten up a bit.  You are all for the most part, extremely high strung and hyper defensive.  Call off your dogs.  I have asked a simple question and the badgering is unnecessary.



  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_flower-girl-question-please-crisis?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:7056c1e9-a0a2-40cf-8718-724fd77ecbe5Post:4f874824-e004-4c06-b6a1-406cbff86ad0">Re: 1</a>:
    [QUOTE]I do not know why my posts have been deleted.  I can assure you I am the Husband in this situation.  Maybe you ladies, and that term shall be used ever so lightly, should take a step back and lighten up a bit.  You are all for the most part, extremely high strung and hyper defensive.  Call off your dogs.  I have asked a simple question and the badgering is unnecessary.
    Posted by lan3168[/QUOTE]

    Nobody except for a mod can delete your posts besides you.  I doubt Banana deleted your posts and changed your OP to "1".  Nice try.

    And nobody here was defensive except for you.
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  • From what I can see, the only one making insults is the OP.   Remember, you can comment on the behavior but if you insult the person, it its a different note.

    BTW, I haven't deleted anything.

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