I need some input on this one... I am getting married in March and this will be my second marriage, his first (notice the date I joined, HAHA) Anyhow...when I first got married, we just basically went to the only church in town that would marry a non member couple. We had a small reception in the basement because I was the only one working and thats all we could afford!
Well, after we got divorced, i started going to the church and am now a member there. I love the church and my Pastor! Anyhow, when my fiancee proposed we originally were gonna do an outside wedding to avoid the same venue, but now since we are getting married in March, he wants to get married at the church...also our mini outdoor reception is out because it will be March (moved wedding up because we were gonna go to Vegas on my Spring Break...but not everyone he wanted to come could come so we moved it back home...and I did not want to wait!!) Well, the other day he said "why dont we do it in the basement" Even after I told him that its what I did the first time, he still wants to do it. He views it as making new memories...which I totally agree with, but I still feel like its sorta weird? Is it as weird as I think it is? There will be barely anyone there that was there the first time around...
Thanks
Jeni
Re: Second wedding same as the first...
My FI and I currently work in popular touristy spot that my ex and I honeymooned in. As part of our jobs we get free access to certain major tourist spots whenever we want. I have to say, as much as I love the place, it's always in the back of my mind that "hey, I was here with ex". As much as I want to push that thought out of my head and focus on being there with FI, I can't completely get rid of it. It's like this annoying little ghost that won't go away.
If both of YOU are comfortable with it, however, there's nothing that says it is wrong.
I too would be "wierded out" by this. For me it is an issue of karma - what I feel is the energy left behind by people and events. I wouldnt want my new marriage to start where a previous one had started, I would want something brand new. But this is me, not you! It sounds like you and your FI are cool with making new memories, which IMO speaks loudly of the kind of man your FI is! However, if you are on the fence on this, I would consider having your reception at home or some other spot that can work on your budget.
Can you have the reception somewhere else?
If you are ok with it, then do what you think is right!
While I don't think it's "weird" per se, I also don't think this is something I would want to do. I loved my first wedding, it was perfect for me at that point in my life. Now I feel like a different person and this wedding reflects us as a couple and while some things about weddings are similar from one to the next, this wedding is perfect for me (and FI) at this point in my life. I also agree that while you may find this okay in theory, I'm also wondering how you will feel on the day of....
That said, I could NEVER do it.. the ghosts of wedding past would be far too loud for my taste. But then again, our wedding is completely different than either of our first weddings (not even in the same states where we were previously married), totally different wedding attire, and my FH even made sure my engagement ring looked absolutely NOTHING like my first one (even the stone is a totally different shape). But that's just us. Do what you two want, but make sure it's REALLY okay with you deep down inside, and you're not just going along with what your fiance wants without being honest to yourself.
Jeni
I'm not saying it's WRONG to do, just giving my honest opinion.