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joelsangel925
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anyone else have a grouchy FSIL?
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Re: anyone else have a grouchy FSIL?
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[QUOTE]WTF is a planning BBQ?
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]
This.
And I think this is a case of "She's just not that into you." Sorry. Move on and have a wedding.
[QUOTE]Mine has been in a bad mood since the day we met. We planned to ask her husband to marry us (he married my fiance's parents too--they are a blended family). She said "he does what I tell him to"--which didn't give us a chance to ask him, and it turned out he didn't want to do it. She was quiet and distant @ the engagement party. 2 hours late to the planning BBQ where she took over and told me how things would be, plugged up my mom's toilet, and acted awful. Waited until 9PM the night before the shower to RSVP for her and her daughter (supposed to be my flower girl.) She was awful at the shower, snapping and being defensive. I asked her 5 months ago what size tuxedo for her son (supposed to be RB) but she will not respond. She'll only answer my question with a question. I emailed her asking if this all was an inconvenience to her and if so, she could gracefully decline and she blows up. As does my FH, who calls his mom (not FSIL's real mom) and causes a problem, then his step dad, and then also talks to her. They don't see anything wrong with her behavior. Unreal! And for my trouble--asking if this was a problem, etc, trying to make things easier for everyone else--I'm the bad guy. My mom says I should call all of them and explain, not apologize...just get everything into the open. (And put everyone back in their place so to speak.) This is pushing my FH and I to the breaking point. The rehearsal is Saturday, the wedding is in 25 days... Any advice?
Posted by joelsangel925[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Quit involving these people in your planning/wedding. Stop it now.
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And, most importantly, why did your FI side with his family over you? I'd be rethinking all of this. And by rethinking I mean giving the ring back and cancelling the wedding.
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[QUOTE]a chance for everyone to see the venue (a backyard), address questions and concerns, meet and greet--we don't spend much time together.
Posted by joelsangel925[/QUOTE]
Did every decision in the planning of your wedding require a group consensus?
That's just fvcktarded.
[QUOTE]with the work schedules of everyone involved it was the only day that would work.
Posted by joelsangel925[/QUOTE]
That makes no sense. Whom did you need to 'view the venue and ask questions'? The only people who saw my venue before my wedding were my parents and DH. Why was your FSIL there? Was the rest of the WP there?
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Let us know how it goes.
[QUOTE]Yep...everyone. So there would be no fits and griping later on. Waste of time in the end. I listened. But ultimately kept my original plans. I figured I gave everyone a chance to have a voice. but it isn't their wedding...it's ours. I didn't plan their's.
Posted by joelsangel925[/QUOTE]
Why would there be 'fits and griping'? Were all these people giving you money for the wedding or something? Are y'all that co-dependent on one another? WTF?
I don't understand at all.
*sigh*
Let your FI handle it. I'm not entirely sure you should marry him anyway, so it may be a moot point.
You wasted an evening of all these people's lives so they could help you plan your wedding, then you didn't take any of their ideas anyway. You sound like a peach. I can't imagine why your fsil doesn't like you.
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[QUOTE]So would you drop her, & the kids from the wedding?
Posted by joelsangel925[/QUOTE]
::headdesk::
How do you manage to get out of your house without assistance every day?
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yes, the mention of toilet clogging was distressing and disturbing.
had you expressed your issue with any clarity and concision, perhaps you would have met with better results.
in the end, you will be married and your fsil will be making stank faces in all the photos you will treasure for the rest of your life. so, win win.
It sounds like a gigantic mess. I couldn't keep all of it straight. Honestly, after the first few times of her telling you no, or not answering you, or being straight up rude, why would you continue with her? Life is waaay too short to deal with people who live to make your life poopy.
Thanks again...hope you're wedding is wonderful.