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July 2012 Weddings
Nati05
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For those of you having 1st, M/S and F/D dances...
How are you ordering these??
The last thing I want is to lump them all together cause IMO it will get boring fast! I had thought about doing the 1st dance with FI right after being introduced at the reception, right before sitting down to eat to help seperate the dances. The other two dances would be after eating and kind of a way to open up the dancefloor to everyone else after the 2 dances are done.
But FI isn't loving that plan. 1 pm is lunch time here and it's considered a pretty big deal. People are ok with eating up until 2 pm but anything after that is ridiculous and will cause complaints. I'm thinking if we have our 1st dance we can sit down to eat 1:30/ 1:45 but it seems like FI is feeling antsy about eating on time. He gets major cranky pants when he's hungry so I think that's why he doesn't like the idea of dancing before eating. Granted it'll take no more than 5 minutes but it seems he really dislikes this.
Anyway I'm curious to see how some of you are planning these 3 dances because I have no idea how these things usually go.
The last thing I want is to lump them all together cause IMO it will get boring fast! I had thought about doing the 1st dance with FI right after being introduced at the reception, right before sitting down to eat to help seperate the dances. The other two dances would be after eating and kind of a way to open up the dancefloor to everyone else after the 2 dances are done.
But FI isn't loving that plan. 1 pm is lunch time here and it's considered a pretty big deal. People are ok with eating up until 2 pm but anything after that is ridiculous and will cause complaints. I'm thinking if we have our 1st dance we can sit down to eat 1:30/ 1:45 but it seems like FI is feeling antsy about eating on time. He gets major cranky pants when he's hungry so I think that's why he doesn't like the idea of dancing before eating. Granted it'll take no more than 5 minutes but it seems he really dislikes this.
Anyway I'm curious to see how some of you are planning these 3 dances because I have no idea how these things usually go.
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Re: For those of you having 1st, M/S and F/D dances...
We are doing our first dance as soon as we walk in, then after the cake cutting it will be the F/D and M/S dances.
same as bells!
ceglare I have seen it done both ways. It's just that, a lot of times, once everyone is done with dinner and cake, they are ready to start dancing/distracted. We are going to do our first dance right away while people are still interested and watching.
We MIGHT end up doing our cake cutting then too, just so the kitchen has longer to prepare the slices (our package includes mousse/fresh fruit/cake plate painting so it will take them longer than usual to prepare all the plates). Then we would eat dinner, do toasts, have the other two dances while people eat cake, then open the floor.
I wouldn't actually "open the dance floor" until after all the special dances are over. We are probably going to start the night off with a bridal party dance after mother/son and father/daughter are over. It would be awkard to tell everyone to leave after they have already been invited to the dance floor.
All the wedding I have ever been to normally do 1st dance right away followed by F/D and then M/S
[QUOTE]now that I am thinking about it more - <strong>I think we will do cake cutting right away so our kitchen can get to work</strong>, then first dance, then mother/son and father/daughter, then we will sit down for dinner and toasts......
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]
You mean doing the cake cutting before dinner is even served? I have always seen it done after dinner, I think...
Now I'm really confused about the order of all of this stuff, too!
[QUOTE]same as bells!
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]
Same!
Ceglare, I don't believe there is any "traditional" way to do it. Rather that there is a pattern people tend to follow. So no worries, there aren't any rules to follow. However, I wouldn't suggest opening up the floor and then clearing it again to do 2 more dances...
Bmore, I'm also surprised to see cake cuttings before eating! I saw it on a thread a while back and it blew my mind. Besides the sense it might make, I'd just feel weird cutting a cake when I haven't even eaten anything yet lol. I'm sticking to my original plan for that one, we'll be doing that later for sure.
I should have added a poll.. to see who is dancing before dinner and who is doing after.
[QUOTE]We're doing our 1st dance right at the beginning when the bridal party enters. Then we're going to have dinner, and while our guests are eating dinner, we're having the F/D and M/S dances. Our venue actually suggested this so that we're not wasting much time. Our cake cutting will be right after dinner and then open dance for the last 2 hours.
Posted by Amanda1443994[/QUOTE]
This is what I'm leaning towards, too. But then, I guess speeches/toasts have to fit in there as well. Oof.
The F/D and M/S dances will be after we eat, sort of to start the party. Or we may split them up and do one later in the night, I haven't decided that yet.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For those of you having 1st, M/S and F/D dances... : This is what I'm leaning towards, too. But then, I guess speeches/toasts have to fit in there as well. Oof.
Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]
Yea, we're having speeches/toasts during dinner as well. We met with our venue a few weeks ago and this is our preliminary timeline:
-7 pm cocktail hour
-8 pm bridal entrance, 1st dance
-8:30 dinner starts
-sometime between 9-9:45 we will have the F/D and M/S dance and speeches
-10 cake cutting
- 10 to 12 open dance
We're having a formal 5 course sit-down dinner so we should have plenty of time to fit all the toasts and special dancing while people are eating. At least this is what my venue told us haha
The last wedding I went to split dances up 15 minutes apart...so 1st dance, 15 minutes later it was the father daughter immediately after mother son....