S/O Drinking prior to the Ceremony

janeash · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I don't think its appropriate to get wasted or drink just to drink before the ceremony, but I don't see anything wrong with a mimosa or two. We'll be having mimosas and bellinis (because I don't like orange juice, a bellini is basically any other fruit juice & champagne) while getting ready at the salon. We'll also have bagels & fruit and other snacks though so I don't think anyone will be overdoing it. <strong> I also don't want to have to go to the bathroom too much once my dress is on, since it'll require extensive assistance!</strong> I have noooo idea what FI will be doing. I haven't talked to him about it, although I probably will after this discussion. He doesn't even know where he's getting ready yet which really bugs me but he likes to wait until the last minute to decide things.
Posted by michellep1[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>YES!!! I am planning on drinking as little as possible once I have that baby on.....I'm not a fan of having company in the bathroom with me so hopefully I will only have to pee once or twice!

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tgerl · March 2012

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[QUOTE]My FI and the guys (as well as us girls) may have 1, just to get our nerves under control. I don't feel that anyone should have more than 2 tops!
Posted by KrisKenny[/QUOTE]

This exactly! I told FI if I walk down the aisle and smell a lot of alcohol coming from him (his GM are known to drink), I may turn around. I don't know if he's taking me seriously. I did put his dad in charge of making sure everyone stays sober before the ceremony - and at least his dad his taking it seriously!

In all seriousness, although I'm nervous about it, I do have confidence that FI will take it seriously and not drink more than a couple.

kimiandgary · March 2012

Our venue provides champagne to both the groom's room and the bride's room. One bottle in each room will be split between 6 people. I'm fine with that..

midgetthemighty · March 2012

I'm finding this all very interesting ladies. Thanks for playing, as always.

I still think it's inappropriate but that's my own preference and FI has always supported it. Helps that our church does too. I kinda want his BM to try and sneak some in so my brother (a GM and custodian at church) can actually confiscate it with authority.

Rethany · March 2012

We are getting married at a winery so I am sure we will have a glass while getting ready but I don't absolutely need it to calm nerves or anything. And depending how I feel that day I may not drink at all beforehand. FI will probably be the same way but I think his GMs will be more successful at talking him into having a drink than my BMs will with me! I don't think it is absolutely necessary and I know everyone is different but one drink probably would do nothing for my nerves.

Cassandra999 · March 2012

We will each have 1 or 2 drinks while getting ready. Ceremony is not until 5:30 that's what our group does. We won't be drunk. I don't plan on being drunk at all that day. As soon as we got engaged my mom was talking about how they will have to give me a shot to calm down bc I get so uptight.

sleblanc72 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]We are getting married at a winery so I am sure we will have a glass while getting ready but I don't absolutely need it to calm nerves or anything. And depending how I feel that day I may not drink at all beforehand. FI will probably be the same way but I think his GMs will be more successful at talking him into having a drink than my BMs will with me! I don't think it is absolutely necessary and I know everyone is different but one drink probably would do nothing for my nerves.
Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]
I totally agree with all of this. <div>
</div><div>It's definitely an individual thing and I hope everyone here ends up having their decision respected by all those involved in the wedding. </div><div> Midgie I hope that GM respects what you and Fi have put forth on not drinking.</div>

MissyB1313 · March 2012

I`m fine with the boys having a drink or 2... I think all the guys are pretty well seasoned at drinking, so a drink or two won`t do much. Us girls will probably only have 1, and FSIL (BM) might not even have 1...she doesn`t drink, and (I have my speculations) may be expecting (now, or will be before the wedding....she planned her dress around it.)

Me, MOH, & my little sister will probably have a cooler, or vodka oj. It`s a little different for us though, we`re not getting married in a church, there`s no religious affiliation with our ceremony, so our families see it more as a time to celebrate.

melfacto · March 2012

My hair stylist (coming to my house) will be bringing breakfast and stuff for mimosas, having one glass, will not do anything to me or the other 7 woman getting ready at my home. FI may have a shot with the boys before heading to the church, but no way will anyone be drunk in our WP - after 9pm they can party all they want before hand would be inappropriate in my eyes..

sweetcanadian1979 · March 2012

I think it depends on where you are getting married/what type of venue you have.

I think as a whole it is inappropriate. We are getting married in a catholic church. He has brothers who are alcoholics. I told him if anyone drinks beforehand they are not coming in, the church & priest forbid it, i don't blame them. We have a 4pm ceremony so that is a long day. But honestly, if someone can't go without drinking until an appropriate time there is a problem.

After the ceremony i want us to all crack one. Beer for the guys, coolers for us ladies (in bottle form). It t will be a cool photo op, but the ceremony will be done so the party can start.

If you are having an outdoor ceremony with a jp i think one is fine, anymore is not necesary.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

Shan, I hope he respects a lot of things we've told him about.

Elizabeth80 · March 2012

I don't think I even realized people did this before their wedding until recently. We probably won't because its just not something I would think about. My mind will be on too many other important things.

drewmw · March 2012

My ladies and I will probably have some mimosas while getting ready, and I am sure Fi will have a beer with his GMs. But we both agree on where to draw the line before the ceremony.

MiksChick23 · March 2012

After reading back through these...I do see the "inappropriateness" of drinking in church. I don't know that I would feel comfortable with that. I, however, am not being married in a church so I don't see any disrespect in drinking a little bit at a golf course!

Carebear62584 · March 2012

Well I'm not worried about FI because he's never had a sip in his life. I think the rest of his guys can manage to wait until the reception to get sloshed. Us girls will probably have a mimosa or 2 while we are getting ready. Our wedding isn't until 7pm so it's not like we will be getting wasted.

melntaitt · March 2012

We are getting married at a winery so I am sure we will have a glass while getting ready ~ Spiffy.

No reds near that white dress hun!

I'm having a few glasses of champagne with my mom and maids before the ceremony but we're not getting sloshed by any means. My stylist serves mimosas for wedding parties at her salon so I'll be having a glass there. There's unlimited free champagne at the venue for the bride's room so I'm having a glass with the maids in the dressing room. I doubt I'll have more than two that entire day, but I'm not walking down the aisle until 5:30 pm so depending on the amount of errands, stops, dressing and planning involved I may not even have time for those two.

julbgordo · March 2012

I fully expect the guys to have a beer or two and I plan to have some mimosa's or champagne with strawberries for my girls as we get ready. I honestly think it will help me loosen up and hopefully not cry through my entire ceremony.

lilmiss_34 · March 2012

I'm planning to have some champagne while getting ready with my girls. My ceremony isn't until 7 pm, and pictures will start about 3:30 or 4. HOWEVER. My FI is Jewish and Russian, and apparently there is quite the drinking tradition! Right before going to see the bride, the groom and his men take a shot. ... Then another shot. ... Then as many shots as it takes for him to 'feel ready." At first I was having absolutely none of this. I will not marry someone who needs to get wasted in order to marry me! I've conceded to 1 shot prior to, and he must be thorough with the mouth wash afterwards!

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