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RachNRich · July 2010

I know most of you don't know my background (but a bunch of you do)--but, Rich and I just moved to NC for a job for him. Part of the move required me (willingly) to leave my PhD program (half way through my coursework) and my assistantship at my university. So, here I am without a job, not really knowing what to do.

I had an interview today at Rich's university for a part-time position. They talked it up a bit more before the interview, but I pretty much knew it wasn't the best option for me--however, I don't have any other job prospects at the time. The position would be 28 hours a week--paying about $1k a month (this is identical to what I made as a graduate assistant--except more hours for the same pay). There is no potential for the job to become full time, nor any potential to take on additional responsibilities. The two girls I'd be "interning" for--well, I have more education than them, and would feel slightly odd working for them.

We've not even been here three weeks, so I do have the potential to continue searching for more jobs. That, and, I haven't even been offered this job. But, assuming I do--I'm not sure if I should take it or not. I'd hate to turn it down, and wind up with nothing.

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barbbhoww · July 2010

That is tough because you don't want to have to quit in 4 weeks because you found something better and it look bad on your DH.

Plus, more hours for the same pay is like nothing. I know it is a job, but with no advancement, there is nothing really more you can do.

JenGin74 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]That is tough because<font color="#800000"><strong> you don't want to have to quit in 4 weeks because you found something better and it look bad on your DH.</strong></font> Plus, more hours for the same pay is like nothing. I know it is a job, but with no advancement, there is nothing really more you can do.
Posted by barbbhoww[/QUOTE]

This.

RachNRich · July 2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>That is tough because you don't want to have to quit in 4 weeks because you found something better and it look bad on your DH</strong>. Plus, more hours for the same pay is like nothing. I know it is a job, but with no advancement, there is nothing really more you can do.
Posted by barbbhoww[/QUOTE]
This is what I'm most afraid of--assuming I'd get offered the job, and take it for lack of having anything else--and then something more fitting arises. I'd have a hard time leaving them high and dry....but, at this point in my life, I don't really need an "internship," I need a job. <div>
</div><div>But, a part time job is better than no job at all. </div>

RachNRich · July 2010

I also don't want it to look bad on him

jasmineh7777 · July 2010

It really depends on your financial situation. If you can get by without working for a while, I wouldn't take the job.
If you need the money, I'd take it for now. I would stay at least a while though, since Rich is going to be dealing with these people ever after youb leave.

barbbhoww · July 2010

Could you get a part time some place else in the meantime? Old Navy? some place you like to shop where you wouldn't feel as bad leaving them high and dry until you find something.

lilgina64 · July 2010

I'd probably pass on it. I know it's a recession etc etc people are lucky to have jobs etc etc. But since it could reflect poorly on Rich, I'd say the extra 1K a month wouldnt be worth it. You could always try retail or something if you guys are hurting for cash and that way you wouldn't feel guilty quitting at a moments notice to go somewhere you actually want to be.

Ps- Hi Beautiful! I miss you

katiewhompus · July 2010

How are your finances looking? Can you guys afford to go on just his pay for a few months or do you need to start contributing right away?

RachNRich · July 2010

We'd be fine if it was just his income. Well, we'd be fine finically, but I wouldn't be fine mentally---I have this need to pay my own debt down; I can't ask him to take on my stupid college CC debt.

We did fine when I was just bringing in the same amount at my assistantship, which leads me to believe we'd be just fine if I took this. And, I could always supplement the job with another part-time position easily, which would be even better.

While this job has no potential for advancement itself, it may give me a foot in the door for another job this time next year at the university....which, in and of itself, might be worth it.

PS. HI GINA!!!!!!!!

felicity and reverie · July 2010

For the number of hours you will be working, it only comes to about $8.50/hour. It might be better to get a job in retail that would pay about the same. That way if you find a job better suited to your skills, you could cut back on hours at your retail job and you wouldn't feel stuck staying in the internship just because of Rich.

I know there are a couple people on the boards who think it is harder for people with degrees to get retail jobs, but I totally disagree. I work part-time in retail and ~80% of the people in my store either have a Bachelor's degree (or higher) or are currently working on it.

pooh8402 · July 2010

as someone who has been jobless since December, take whatever you can get now to keep the cash flow going, and continue looking for the perfect job.

for this reason:
"While this job has no potential for advancement itself, it may give me a foot in the door for another job this time next year at the university....which, in and of itself, might be worth it. "

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Would you be doing something that you love or that remotely interests you? Is this position in your field? Do you absolutely have to have a job right away? Would this job ever have the potential of getting you a fulltime position via on campus networking?

RachNRich · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Would you be doing something that you love or that remotely interests you? <strong>Yes, and yes.</strong> Is this position in your field? <strong>Yes. </strong>Do you absolutely have to have a job right away? <strong>I wouldn't die if I didn't, but I also want to be sufficient enough to pay my own bills, and help with our bills. </strong> Would this job ever have the potential of getting you a fulltime position via on campus networking? <strong>It might--which is the main selling point for me. But, I have 0% chance of campus networking if I don't take it. </strong>
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pooh8402 · July 2010

Rach, all of those are reasons you SHOULD take it.

goheels05 · July 2010

I totally know what you mean about paying your own debt. But I'd still decline it.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Are there any other job prospects in the area? From your experience, how often are these types of job available?

To be honest, before I read your last post, I was leaning towards saying that I wouldn't take it, but knowing that it's in your field, that you'd be doing something that makes you happy and that you increase your chance of finding something fulltime in the future, I've changed my mind. I would probably take it. Especially if this is an opportunity that doesn't come around that often.

And on another note, Matt and I are going to Greensboro this weekend to go to the Melting Pot. Are you guys doing anything? You could come with us or we could meet up afterward.

betrothed123 · July 2010

I'd take it. You never know how long it might take you to find another job. You could end up working there for quite a while as you continue to search for a job. Also the networking possibilities and potential for a full time job next year sound worth it to me.

RachNRich · July 2010

I'm torn on taking it (and it hasn't been offered yet!)---it'd be about $8.50 an hour, and I could make more waiting tables. While it would be in my area, my area is pretty big (higher ed....anywhere from student life to athletics). The university is 30 minutes each way, so I'd be paying out a lot in gas also, so I'm inclined to keep looking. Worst case scenario, I wait tables/work retail.

And Cew, I've never been to the Melting Pot. Just sayin'.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Oh snap. We could make it a double date! If you and Rich are in, I can have Matt call and change our reservations from 2 to 4.

[Deleted User] · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm torn on taking it (and it hasn't been offered yet!)---it'd be about $8.50 an hour, and <strong>I could make more waiting tables.</strong>While it would be in my area, my area is pretty big (higher ed....anywhere from student life to athletics). The university is 30 minutes each way, so I'd be paying out a lot in gas also, so I'm inclined to keep looking. Worst case scenario, I wait tables/work retail. And Cew, I've never been to the Melting Pot. Just sayin'.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

But is it about the money or is it about having a career and doing something more fulfilling? (Either one is fine, just asking questions to help you think about it).

pooh8402 · July 2010

but waiting tables would not further your career. since the university job is part-time, you could always wait tables on the side for extra cash, but this job is the wiser career move.

betrothed123 · July 2010

Would the experience gained at this job be beneficial to your career? Which would look better on your resume when you're applying for jobs in your career- waiting tables or working at the university?

RachNRich · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Oh snap. We could make it a double date! If you and Rich are in, I can have Matt call and change our reservations from 2 to 4.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
Day/time?<div>
</div><div>Count us in!</div>

RachNRich · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Would the experience gained at this job be beneficial to your career? <strong>Which would look better on your resume when you're applying for jobs in your career- waiting tables or working at the university?</strong>
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

<div>Working at the university, hands down. It isn't all about the money, but at the same time, that's part of the reason I'm looking for a job. </div><div>
</div><div>My main thought process behind taking a job waiting tables is that I wouldn't feel bad leaving that after a few months if something full time at a university opens up near me, and I can apply/interview/accept a job. If something came up nearby after having accepted this job, I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving that soon after starting. </div>

[Deleted User] · July 2010

Yay! I know the reservations are for Saturday, but let me check with Matt on the time and I'll send you a FB message.

WineBaby22 · July 2010

I'm new to this board but am in a very similar situation so I thought I'd give my input... My FI and I are relocating due to his job so I quit my graduate program (also willingly) and have been looking for a job where we are moving. I have a couple of interviews coming up for positions that aren't what I want to be doing forever but think I could really enjoy and learn from in the meantime.
If you do quit this job in a few weeks will definitely reflect poorly on Rich? If so, then I would say don't take the position. Also, the fact that you could see yourself possibly quitting in a few weeks anyways might be enough of a reason not to take the position. I completely understand wanting to remain financially independent but you owe it to yourself (and I'm sure your husband would agree) to spend some time searching for something you're a little more interested in. If you guys were really hurting for money I'd say take the job but if that's not the case why not continue the job hunt a little longer? It's not like you're going to be sitting on the couch all day eating bon bons...

thesuninherhead · July 2010

I would take it only if there was avenue for me to resume a PhD through the position. If not, I'd keep searching until I found a position in which I could do a PhD (preferably during work hours, too!).

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