Is it ok to not invite everyone I work with

Re: Is it ok to not invite everyone I work with

• NOLAbridealmost member

  

  February 2012

  Absolutely okay.  In fact you really ought to only invite coworkers that you have relationships with outside work.  Just ask them to please not discuss the wedding around the office and make sure their invites get sent to their home. 

  
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• StephBeanWed61502 member

  

  February 2012

  It's perfectly fine to invite only the coworkers you hang out with outside of work, as I'm sure was said in the thread like three down from this one.  

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• RegallyBlonde member

  

  February 2012

  I am going to post in here, since there is no point opening a new thread for something similar....I have colleagues that I want to invite, I get along with them really well and have lunch with them etc. However, I never see them outside of work, I really want to invite these people (with their partners o/c) but I don't know how to go about doing it with out inviting the rest of my colleagues, I was going to invite my entire team until I found out that my supervisor's husband has given me a really inappropriate nickname (think of a p*rn star with the same name as me) and my manager wont do anything about it. 

  
  

  If I was discrete about it, is it wrong to not invite some members of my team but invite others?

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• StephBeanWed61502 member

  

  February 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_is-it-ok-to-not-invite-everyone-i-work-with?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b430da69-2ae3-441b-844e-3f03a2c35a9aPost:f74ec62e-7c50-40f9-9bd0-628657da0300">Re: Is it ok to not invite everyone I work with</a>:
  [QUOTE]I am going to post in here, since there is no point opening a new thread for something similar....I have colleagues that I want to invite, I get along with them really well and have lunch with them etc. However, I never see them outside of work, I really want to invite these people (with their partners o/c) but I don't know how to go about doing it with out inviting the rest of my colleagues, I was going to invite my entire team until I found out that my supervisor's husband has given me a really inappropriate nickname (think of a p*rn star with the same name as me) and my manager wont do anything about it.  If I was discrete about it, is it wrong to not invite some members of my team but invite others?
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  <div>Mail their invitations directly to their homes and <em>do not</em> talk wedding at work and it shoul be okay.  If you're truly that much closer to them than to your other colleagues, people will understand.  (And FWIW, I have a close friend at work who I have only hung out with socially outside of work once or twice, and I'm inviting her but no one else.  No one seems to think it's weird.)</div>

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• gailpete member

  

  February 2012

  As PPs have said, it's OK to only selected co-workers.
  
  However, you mentioned you are working on Save the Dates.  I wouldn't send them a save the date.  Not everyone invited needs to get one and in 6 months things at work can change.  People leave jobs, new people come in, etc  I would save these spaces in case you need to reduce the guest list as you get closer to the wedding, or have someone you would end up preferring to invite when the time comes.

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