I am having the WORST time trying to keep things - as i call it - stress free, when it comes to my mother. I have had the best relationship with her up untill i moved out at 16 to live with my dad. Once i had moved out EVERYTHING changed. She stopped talking to me, no phone calls on birthdays & then when i heard about her divorce to my step-dad it got even worse. This happend in October '08 [divorce]Then FH & I got engaged December '09 & my FIL's decided to throw us an engagement party for both sides of the family to get together mingle & celebrate. At this time my mom & i talked maybe twice a month. And i started to become closer with my step-dad due to my little brother & sister [the only time i seen them was when he had them] We invited her told me she couldn't attend, asked why & she stated " i dont support your relationship now WHY would i support your marriage later?" That ladies HURT bad & on top of that she had only met my FH a few times. But i let it go thought she was still upset with me moving even tho that was 3 years prior to the engagment. Engaged at 19? You don't say.Now fast forward - I have talked to my mom 3 times in 3 years. I haven't seen her & i no longer have ANY kind of contact with her because she has moved MANY times & changed cell phone numbers. I've called aunts,uncles even my grandparents & they dont have any information to her where abouts all we know is the town shes living in & thats it.I have heard nothing but misserable things come from her mouth & degrading me to the ground TO MY younger[biological] brother - this has been going on for 2 years & ive just about had enough. She has got my 1 aunt & grandparents against me - telling them LIES about 'things i've said' & of course they believe her over my word. I'm glad she specified he's a BIOLOGICAL brother. As opposed to...?I have 6 months till my wedding, haven't been able to reach her AT ALL & i dont even know where she is.
After everything she's done,said & tried to make my life misserable - do i send her an invitation? IF i do - how do i send it? What shoudl i do? Why do people even ask this question? "This person hates me and treats me like dirt. Where should I send their invitation?" All i wanna do is make sure she is there because thats another thing that she will degrade me for if i dont. She said she would only go to the ceremony if she decides to go [ the last time we spoke when FH & I first got engaged.] My 1 aunt & uncle wont be attending [RSVP even before the invites were sent]PLEASE HELP!
I really, honestly dont know what i should do.------------------------------------------------------One of her interests is dirt racing. Yes.
