SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO?

AllAboutTheBenjamin · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : I don't think you'll have a big falling out. (I know you were kidding but I'm just saying) I think people face disagreements differently. Fi and I are both very stubborn and we get defensive first. So that escalates things quicker - we've learned how to take a few minutes to gain some perspective and then have a calm conversation. Some people are able to get right to that stage which sounds like you and Ben!
Posted by pixiedust84[/QUOTE]

Well, cool :)

I'm actually a pretty stubborn person too, and Ben definitely is stubborn - but I dunno, for some reason when it comes to each other, we just can't really find a reason to get into heated arguments (yet, anyway!).

K&J64 · November 2010

My FI and I broke up for almost two weeks about a year before we got engaged. It was rough, we were living together already, sleeping in separate bedrooms in the apartment, I was starting to look for a place to move into on my own, I think that's when she snapped out of her cold feet or whatever it was and realized she could lose me and it got better. We went to couples counseling a few times, but it wasn't for us. The therapist actually didn't have anything she could do to help us b/c we're really solid and we care for each other very deeply, almost too much, so that when issues arise we're more concerned about the other person than ourselves. It was hard for a few months, but in the end we're stronger for it and I have no doubts about us that's for sure. I'll fight till my last breathe for her (that was really sappy, sorry)

jasmineh7777 · November 2010

You can't trick me OWN! TK never forgets.

Habs2Hart · November 2010

Over shoes...

I wanted the Something Blue Monolo Blahnik's. He asked how much they cost...

It went downhill fast.

luckily we talked it over before saying goodnight. It was brutal though... very not nice. I have since bought cheaper and even prettier shoes.

K&J64 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : Aw... that's so sweet :)
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Thanks, she would make fun of me if she saw that. Anytime I say something sappy to her, the response I get is "cheese fondue!" (b/c it's like a whole pot o' cheese). What a beotch, haha.

Srsly though. I know no one is perfect, but after the psycho bitches I've dated before, and playing the field (read slutting it up) for a summer before I met her, I know she's perfect for me. No one else gets my weirdness and is actually amused by it like she is, silly girl.

kd.joseph · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : I vote you do it sooner rather than later. I hate keeping things bottled up.
Posted by JenGin74[/QUOTE]

I agree with Jen, not just because I love her. But I like to think I learned from my past realtionships and I want this one to work. And although we dont really fight, we have disagreements. And I want the air cleared so that we can continue on. We've had some really in depth conversations, and resolved a few things. But I find that wine helps.....just a thought!

AllAboutTheBenjamin · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : Thanks, she would make fun of me if she saw that. Anytime I say something sappy to her, the response I get is "cheese fondue!" (b/c it's like a whole pot o' cheese). What a beotch, haha. Srsly though. I know no one is perfect, but after the psycho bitches I've dated before, and playing the field (read slutting it up) for a summer before I met her, I know she's perfect for me. No one else gets my weirdness and is actually amused by it like she is, silly girl.
Posted by kcullen37[/QUOTE]

See, you guys sound like Ben and I. He's the romantic one and I'm the one who's always all awkward about it.

I asked him to drop off my wedding shoes at work yesterday since I had my fitting and didn't have time to run home and get them. The kid goes out and buys me roses and gives them to me with my shoes. Sweet, right? Then the card reads: "9 roses: one for each day until you make my dreams come true." Jeez, where does he come up with this stuff?

If I want to do something sweet for him it's usually like "oh, hey, I'll pick up the tab this time!"

slubkin · November 2010

We've never had a real fight. We've had discouraging conversations about money in the past (as in, need to spend it more carefully and watch the bank balance better) but we've worked those issues out.

jasmineh7777 · November 2010

I'm not one for romance either AATB. Isn't romance the part you have to do before sex?
I don't have to do that anymore. lol

Anysunrise · November 2010

My idea of romance is doing a big apartment clean before FI got home. He knows I despise cleaning, so our place is usually messy (not dirty!). I had dinner and everything going. Yes, romance = things most people do every day.

K&J64 · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : See, you guys sound like Ben and I. He's the romantic one and I'm the one who's always all awkward about it. I asked him to drop off my wedding shoes at work yesterday since I had my fitting and didn't have time to run home and get them. The kid goes out and buys me roses and gives them to me with my shoes. Sweet, right? Then the card reads: <strong>"9 roses: one for each day until you make my dreams come true."</strong> Jeez, where does he come up with this stuff? If I want to do something sweet for him it's usually like "oh, hey, I'll pick up the tab this time!"
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]

Awww so cute :) I'm a sucker for that stuff, but FI is like you, she can't express her feelings in words, she has to put them into mix CDs or slide shows. I take what I can get. I told her I want us to write our own vows, she almsot passed out at the idea of talking about FEELINGS in front of people lol.

jasmineh7777 · November 2010

OWN- I think you guys will be fine. You're obviously concerned about not hurting his feelings or making him feel threatened. Even if there is an issue you need to work out, I don't think you're approaching it as an argument.

Blueyed228 · November 2010

I dont think I would share our worst fight.

I get the sense that if you talk about something shiity your H/FI did on these boards, people remember and judge you for it.

We argue like everyone else does. Only a few bad ones. Mostly because I am super confrontational and FI is very passive aggressive. Its not big issues, just learning how to communicate effectively. We have gotten a lot better at it.

ohwhynot · November 2010

That's true, Blue. I think for a lot of people, though, their biggest fight turns out to be something they can both laugh about later. I guess I was calling out for those, not the ones where people would go "Holy crap, and you married that guy?"

I'm not going into detail, or even give hints, about what my issue is with H, though, for just the reason you cited.

maratea · November 2010

AATB- I think H is really frugal now because when he lived in Minn. he spent a lot of money, all of the time, and went into pretty hefty credit card debt. I know he doesn't want to do that again. I guess he's just having a little trouble finding a balance between the 2. Most of the time I don't mind, because I'm sure my spending balances out his miserness.

maratea · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : See, now I would call that just turning over a new responsible leaf :) He will find a balance eventually. Plus CC debt is frightening so I really don't blame him for being somewhat penny-pinching. :)
Posted by AllAboutTheBenjamin[/QUOTE]
Also, I think he doesn't want to be like his mom, who is constantly spending money so they can 'keep up with the Jones'. H's stepdad has a lot of wealth when MIL first married him, but now they are in massive debt because of her out of control spending. I mean, I like shopping but I have limits and I know what is responsible. She does not. Example: $20k for a remod on a kitchen, that had been redone only 7 years earlier.

zippityb · November 2010

We can't play Super Mario Bros Wii together anymore because it's too intense.

Anysunrise · November 2010

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[QUOTE]Michael gets super pissed at me because I'm so competitive and I have to win all.the.time. I compete with people when they don't even know I'm competing. It really bugs him. I'm also very stubborn and have to be right. He's not such a fan of that, but he's learning to tune me out, and I'm trying hard to tone it down a notch. <strong>Speaking of competition...JEN you have a higher score at bejeweled than me, and I stayed up late last night trying to beat it. That is my weekend mission!</strong>
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]

Hehe, I'm a freaking nut when it comes to winning at Bejeweled. I played an absurd amount and am kind of awesome at it now.

Anysunrise · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : We can't either. I like to throw him down holes and not pop the bubble to bring him back. When I turn on the Wii he goes and watches tv in the bedroom. Any, I'm glad I'm not the only one. I get so pissed when I can't get a really high score for the week. I actually deleted my cousin because his score was so freaking high every week
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]

<div>Lol. Yeah, my mom used to be my biggest competition but she doesn't play anymore. No one else comes close.</div>

Anysunrise · November 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: SO: Your worst fight with your H/fi/SO? : I feel like you're challenging me LOL
Posted by dmiller9274[/QUOTE]

<div>If you're interested ;)</div>

HobokensFury · November 2010

3 weeks ago on my birthday weeked FI went out with his friends to see Jackass 3D. I was a little annoyed but didn't get livid until later. He called at 9:30 and said he was on his way home. At 11 I called him to find out where he was and he was drinking in a bar! I was so pissed I told him not to bother coming home. It took me until about 2 days to get over it. I wouldn't have cared if he called and said he was staying out but he told me he was on his way home and lied!

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