Favors
Favor Question
So we are having a photobooth, one that prints the stips of pictures. Anyways, they are doing two copies, one goes in a book for our guests to write little messages to us for a keepsake (photos and video are a big deal at our wedding becasue I have a memory problem, but that is a different story). And the other goes in a little sleeve for them to take home as a bookmark favor.
My question is this, I know a little bookmark with pictures on it is not that big of a favor, but we (bride, groom, parents, etc) have been debating between two ideas.
One a tin with candy that has a personalized stamp on it that has our name and wedding date on it. It would have colored candies that match our wedding colors. yes I know traditional but anyways.
The other idea is a donation. yes I know donations are hotly debated. And I understand why. Ours kind of fits our wedding though. The bride and groom are wearing TOMS shoes (for each pair bought they donate a pair to a child in need). We are serving wine from a company that uses 50% of profit to a charity (got the idea from another knoter). And there are other things we are doing as well. So a donation to a charity fits, at least in my opinion.
Plus since they are already getting a favor, though something small ( but useful) I don't see a problem with the donation idea. Was just wondering others thoughts on the ideas. Should we do the tin, or would the donation be ok.
My question is this, I know a little bookmark with pictures on it is not that big of a favor, but we (bride, groom, parents, etc) have been debating between two ideas.
One a tin with candy that has a personalized stamp on it that has our name and wedding date on it. It would have colored candies that match our wedding colors. yes I know traditional but anyways.
The other idea is a donation. yes I know donations are hotly debated. And I understand why. Ours kind of fits our wedding though. The bride and groom are wearing TOMS shoes (for each pair bought they donate a pair to a child in need). We are serving wine from a company that uses 50% of profit to a charity (got the idea from another knoter). And there are other things we are doing as well. So a donation to a charity fits, at least in my opinion.
Plus since they are already getting a favor, though something small ( but useful) I don't see a problem with the donation idea. Was just wondering others thoughts on the ideas. Should we do the tin, or would the donation be ok.
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Re: Favor Question
I am a teacher, my fiancee is in nursing school. We thought we would donate to an organization that helps in both of these areas. We would donate to their education fund and their medical fund, which since its what we chose for our careers means alot to us.
I'd put the candy in a cute bag, a favor box, tie it up in tulle, etc. People will care far more about the candy than the container it's in.
As for the donations, here's my standard answer:
Make your donation. I believe in donations. I make them myself. I think they're a good thing to do.
But don't pretend that they're a favor to your guests. Because they're not. They're a favor to the organization, and to you. You're taking the money you'd spend on a little something for your guests and giving it to someone else. How do you figure that's a favor for your guests?
Honestly, I don't need a favor. I don't really want a favor. You're already giving me food, drinks, entertainment. I don't need a matchbook or m&ms (although I LOVE m&ms) as a thank you.
But please don't in any, way, shape or form think that giving $$ to a charity is somehow doing something for me.
I'd liken it to a guest coming to your wedding and giving you a card that says "In honor of your marriage, I have given a donation to the "eastern micronesia tsunami prevention fund". It may be important to your guest, but it probably doesn't mean anything to you. So it's not really a gift for you, is it?
I appreciate all of the "charitable" things you're doing in your wedding. I don't see a need to announce any of it. If a guest asks about the shoes, absolutely tell them. But I don't know if you were planning to announce, perhaps in a program or something, why you're wearing the shoes.....serving the wine you're serving....and the other things you're doing. If so: I wouldn't.
It's important that you know what you're doing and why. I don't know why it would be important for your guests to know what you're doing and why.
GL
Go ahead and make the donation without announcing it. To some people it might seem like you are saying "look at us, look what GOOD people we are". I'm not saying this is you at all but I'm a social worker and I have a lot of experience with people who only do good things when they are sure someone will notice and pat them on that back for it, and if people don't notice they make sure to point it out.