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Gaps + 20 miles between ceremony and reception.

TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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Some choice quotes from my local:

[QUOTE] our ceremony is at 2 and is 12 miles from the reception space, where the cocktail hour starts at 5. luckilly there's quite a bit to see between san pedro and long beach. it's kinda good though because our ceremony space only holds 110 chairs and with 160 people on our guest list we know that our nearest and dearest will be there and get a seat :)
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[QUOTE]I will be having a big gap and quite a long drive from ceremony and reception. Those who miss your ceremony must not be close enough people....When its a church wedding, most guests expect that big gap. Besides they should plan that day only for your wedding and nothing else. Yes, the drive would kind of suck but it will be all worth it. Most of my family is aware of this and they will all attend the ceremony, I mean that's all you need right? oh yeah and fi hehe...Friends usually come to reception only.
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Moral of the story: people will do anything because ITS YOUR DAY!!!
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    Oh the horror.



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  • laurenclaire1386laurenclaire1386
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    Jaysus. What a peach these two are.  Or is it all one person? I don't think my local is that bad, mainly because it's so slow. I rarely go there, though, so I wouldn't really know.
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  • tlv204tlv204 member
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    I like gaps. They give me plenty of time to get hammered in case there is a cash bar.  I'm only kind of joking.
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    Gaps are one thing, but not having enough seats for people at the ceremony is just downright cruel. I hope there's a sewage leak at her venue on her wedding day.



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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    Nope, 2 different posters.

    FYI, traffic here is so unpredictable that even on a Saturday you can't guarantee it won't take you an hour and a half, plus, to drive 20 miles.

    I actually didn't book my ceremony and reception locations 8 miles from each other because there are a lot of oot guests and really, you just never know.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gaps-20-miles-between-ceremony-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:69e4f0ab-87af-462a-afc6-67ffdedea178Post:9725fc87-4d48-425a-99c1-07952105e0ab">Re: Gaps + 20 miles between ceremony and reception.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Gaps are one thing, but not having enough seats for people for the ceremony is just downright cruel. I hope it there's a sewage leak at her venue on her wedding day.
    Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

    I'm also wondering who those 50 people who aren't her "nearest and dearest" are. Coworkers? FI's extended family? Why the hell would you invite them if you don't care whether or not they have a chair?
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  • laurenclaire1386laurenclaire1386
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gaps-20-miles-between-ceremony-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:69e4f0ab-87af-462a-afc6-67ffdedea178Post:c2e11730-b39c-4b9e-8a5a-5da8bfb33b13">Re: Gaps + 20 miles between ceremony and reception.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Nope, 2 different posters. FYI, traffic here is so unpredictable that even on a Saturday you can't guarantee it won't take you an hour and a half, plus, to drive 20 miles. I actually didn't book my ceremony and reception locations 8 miles from each other because there are a lot of oot guests and really, you just never know.
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

    Dude, if I flew cross country for a wedding, then had to sit in an hour and half of traffic to drive 20 miles, I'd probably skip the damn reception altogether.
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gaps-20-miles-between-ceremony-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:69e4f0ab-87af-462a-afc6-67ffdedea178Post:651ea13b-89a9-4c5f-86dc-1a37ed71c7a2">Re: Gaps + 20 miles between ceremony and reception.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gaps + 20 miles between ceremony and reception. : I'm also wondering who those 50 people who aren't her "nearest and dearest" are. Coworkers? FI's extended family? Why the hell would you invite them if you don't care whether or not they have a chair?
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

    Um yeah, plus I don't get the logic. What if the unimportant people get there first, then I guess her slow-ass grandparents will be sitting on the floor. Slackers. Or is she going to have ushers only seat people who are on the near-and-dear list?



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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    I'm picturing it like an inside, invitation-only thing for those in the know. Or people lining up for concert tickets or black friday. "So, when are you getting to the ceremony? I figure 8am will guarantee me a good seat. Oh, didn't you know? There's not enought seating for everyone."
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    Besides they should plan that day only for your wedding and nothing else.

    Okay, I just saw this. W.T.F. It's like the Entitled Bridezilla's Credo.



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  • princesskittieprincesskittie member
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    Friends usually come to reception only?  I had no idea.
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    [QUOTE]Friends usually come to reception only?  I had no idea.
    Posted by princesskittie[/QUOTE]

    I guess if they're your frat brothers and only care about the keg. I've never only been to a reception. But I'm also big on being on time.
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    [QUOTE]Friends usually come to reception only?  I had no idea.
    Posted by princesskittie[/QUOTE]

    I think the bride is trying to rationalize this so that she doesn't have to take responsibility for being a terrible, terrible hostess.



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    "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
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  • SwedishChick2011SwedishChick2011
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    [QUOTE]Friends usually come to reception only?  I had no idea.
    Posted by princesskittie[/QUOTE]
    Geez, I wish I had known that before.  All this time I've been attending my friends' ceremonies.  How silly of me.
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  • MeaghanandMichaelMeaghanandMichael
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    [QUOTE]I like gaps. They give me plenty of time to get hammered in case there is a cash bar.  I'm only kind of joking.
    Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]


    Girl after my own heart.

    Yeah, I will never ever understand NOT wanting people to see you exchange vows. FWIW I got married on a freakin island and every single person at my reception make it to the church.
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    That must have pissed you off Meaghan. Didn't they realize their place was at the reception only? I hope you didn't have to scramble for extra chairs, GOSH.



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  • MeaghanandMichaelMeaghanandMichael
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    Yeah, those effing morons.

    We got them blankets so they didn't have to sit on the cold floor though.
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  • CellesCelles member
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    Once upon a time, I attended a dinner reception with my ex in Chicago.  We weren't invited to the actual ceremony, which took place in a small church and was only attended by immediate family.  (My ex was a cousin and therefore extended family.)  It seemed weird at the time, but -- in hindsight -- I suppose I should be grateful we had seats.  O.o
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  • beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gaps-20-miles-between-ceremony-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:69e4f0ab-87af-462a-afc6-67ffdedea178Post:1946e92f-d50d-400d-b422-d118117da5dc">Re: Gaps + 20 miles between ceremony and reception.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah, those effing morons. We got them blankets so they didn't have to sit on the cold floor though.
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]

    Well aren't you a sweetheart. :) I would have just given them a ladder to peek into the window from outside.



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    Wow. What a bunch of assholes. I kind of hate them.
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  • kmurr010kmurr010
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    "When its a church wedding, most guests expect that big gap"

    That's crazy talk. NEVER have I been to a wedding at a church and thought, "Gee, I hope there's a huge break between the ceremony and reception." What the hell are these girls thinking? It amazes me when people that think like that actually exist.
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    I've never been to a wedding with a gap. True story.

    But then I've never been to a wedding with a Catholic mass. But I know a lot of girls on E were able to pull off a mass without having a freaking 3 hour gap.
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