So my fiance and I have decided to have an adult only reception, but we are still having 2 ring bearers and 3 flower girls (youngest is 4). I would like to put "intimate adult only" on the reception card, inviting only the kids that are in the wedding party to the reception....problem is, 2 of the flower girls are my fiance's cousins and he has another cousin (not from the same family as the flower girls) who is only going to be 1 year old by the time of the wedding. I think that an intimate, elegant wedding reception is no place for a 1 year old, and I do not think she should be invited to the reception....however, my fiance feels that she is family and it would be rude and disrespectful to leave her out. I really do not know what to do, because I do not want to piss anyone off, but I really do not want an infant/toddler and highchairs and/or strollers at my wedding reception!! I need opinions on if you think it is offensive to politely ask that the 1 year stay at home for the reception. PLEASE HELP!!!