I recently got engaged in December. I have kind been expecting it since August so naturally everytime I would visit my boyfriend my roommated would ask if he popped the question. Each time she would start talking about wanting to plan my wedding. Not so much help plan it, but PLAN! I always just brushed it off as nothing. When I finally did get engaged she jumped right in to start the planning! I appreciate the thought behind it, but I want to plan my own wedding. She has been married before and is now no longer married. She drops comments left and right about getting married, how her marriage went astray, what her things cost, how her family was cheap...you name she probably said something negative about her wedding. I do not want to be rude but I do not want to hear all these negative things about weddings.
NOW the BIG PROBLEM!!! She has assumed she is my maid of honor! I do not want her to be my maid of honor much less in my wedding period! She is a good friend but I do not want her in it. I'm not really sure where the assumption she would be my maid of honor came from, but she has assumed it! I feel like I will just have to have her in my wedding, its been a few months since I realized that what she believes! I should have said something when I first heard her say something, but I did not want to make a scene! What do I do? I feel if I take her out completely I will burn a bridge. She is a good friend, but I am not sure if the friendship will last!
Re: How do I get RID of maid of honor?!?!?!?
[QUOTE]I recently got engaged in December. I have kind been expecting it since August so naturally everytime I would visit my boyfriend my roommated would ask if he popped the question. Each time she would start talking about wanting to plan my wedding. Not so much help plan it, but PLAN! I always just brushed it off as nothing. When I finally did get engaged she jumped right in to start the planning! I appreciate the thought behind it, but I want to plan my own wedding. She has been married before and is now no longer married. She drops comments left and right about getting married, how her marriage went astray, what her things cost, how her family was cheap...you name she probably said something negative about her wedding. I do not want to be rude but I do not want to hear all these negative things about weddings. NOW the BIG PROBLEM!!! She has assumed she is my maid of honor! I do not want her to be my maid of honor much less in my wedding period! She is a good friend but I do not want her in it. I'm not really sure where the assumption she would be my maid of honor came from, but she has assumed it! I feel like I will just have to have her in my wedding, its been a few months since I realized that what she believes! I should have said something when I first heard her say something, but I did not want to make a scene! What do I do? I feel if I take her out completely I will burn a bridge. She is a good friend, but I am not sure if the friendship will last!
Posted by criner16[/QUOTE]
well, you won't be getting rid of a maid of honor, because you don't have one. you tell her that this is your and your FI's wedding. her help is appreciated when asked for.and stop discussing wedding plans with her.
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...sorry, I just watched "Enchanted". Back in the real world, you're going to have to shut up and stop sharing wedding details. Don't even give her the date. Vague comments are your best friend now. Any time she mentions the wedding, look at her like she has ants crawling out of her ears.
You're also going to have to be upfront and tell her you haven't picked your wedding party yet. Stop letting her assume. That's not fair to her.
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maybe just casually refer to your MOH. Like, "hey roomie, my MOH Sue & I are going to look at florists this afternoon. see you later!"
"Whatever East. You're just mad I RSVP'd "lame" to your pre-wedding sleepover."
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First of all - use PP's advice and yes, do tell her soon. I liked the suggestion, "I haven't picked my MOH yet." Or maybe you have - and you can just explain to her who you've picked and why.
Perhaps - to help with the elephant - if you wanted to give her *a job* but not a BM spot, maybe ask her to be your Mistress of Ceremonies? If she's so geeked about planning, that might be a good job for her??
Or... you could always just spike her wine with Benadryl... wait until she falls asleep... then drive her out to the middle of a cornfield somewhere and leave her there. Whatever.
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