Hi ladies, I need some advice & I'm getting lots of different opinions. I hope you'll be able to help me. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
I got married this past fall & I invited an old friend from grad school. I hadn't seen her since graduation; I saw her again almost 4 years later, after I got engaged. I met her live-in boyfriend, who told me that he wouldn't be able to accompany my friend to my wedding due to a family issue. Since I hadn't seen or talked to my old friend in so long, I hadn't planned on inviting her, but she seemed really excited, so I invited her. She turned down the invitation to my bridal shower but sent a small gift. She then RSVPed "no" to the wedding invite with no excuse, she just checked the "no" box and never sent a gift. I thought maybe it was b/c she'd be uncomfortable without her boyfriend, but there were plenty of people and mutual friends she would know.
Fast-forward: old friend is now engaged. A mutual friend called me up to see if I'd gotten the save-the-date card (2 weeks later, I still haven't). I don't know when the wedding date is, but I got the shower invitation in the mail. I RSVPed no to the MOH & sent a small gift. Since I have a grandfather and FIL in the hospital with cancer, I will not be going to the wedding, as it is 1500 miles away. My question is, do I send a wedding gift? If so, what?