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• LDYGTR13 member

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-believe-im-posting-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bbfa135-70c8-4f85-ab8a-e36bb73e21fbPost:df9df651-edd1-449f-b2a1-10b26fe905a2">Re: I can't believe I'm posting this..</a>:
  [QUOTE]Perhaps this is obvious, but you should tell the host of the event (your mother) that one of the main players hasn't ordered her dress yet, and have the host of the event handle this issue.  She's certainly known this person for a lifetime, and she will have more effective ways to deal with her than you.
  Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
  
  
  I definitely agree with this. My brother is a  huge pot head - so I know the situation you're in. Get mom in on it.

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• akhensley81 member

  

  July 2010

  For the record, FI and I are paying for this whole shebang.
  
  arv- To answer your questions I honestly could live better knowing that I didn't cave and buy the dress for her when I know damn well she can afford it and is just choosing to spend her money in other ways. She's a terrible decision maker and I'm not going to make that my problem. ((There's history here too... going back to the wedding that I'd prefer not to talk about and even further back... she has a history of stupid decisions.))
  
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• mandysmear member

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-believe-im-posting-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bbfa135-70c8-4f85-ab8a-e36bb73e21fbPost:53781fa1-5ff3-41f0-ae6e-763b33c2781b">Re: I can't believe I'm posting this..</a>:
  [QUOTE]Pay for her BM dress yourself, then steal her pot and sell it to recoup the money. Easy peasy.
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• srkropf member

  

  July 2010

  Maybe ask your mom to talk to her

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• hd7694

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-believe-im-posting-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bbfa135-70c8-4f85-ab8a-e36bb73e21fbPost:5b728213-88d6-4abf-b8b6-73c63e830b5a">Re: I can't believe I'm posting this..</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I can't believe I'm posting this.. : I definitely agree with this. My brother is a  huge pot head - so I know the situation you're in. Get mom in on it.
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• Monster1984 member

  

  July 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-believe-im-posting-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bbfa135-70c8-4f85-ab8a-e36bb73e21fbPost:53781fa1-5ff3-41f0-ae6e-763b33c2781b">Re: I can't believe I'm posting this..</a>:
  [QUOTE]Pay for her BM dress yourself, then steal her pot and sell it to recoup the money. Easy peasy.
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  <div>This is super funny. I agree with her 100%. I am so happy I decided not to have a wedding party other than my adorable nieces as flower girls (who just so happen to come with dresses...)</div>

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• NuggetBrain member

  

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  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-believe-im-posting-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:0bbfa135-70c8-4f85-ab8a-e36bb73e21fbPost:df9df651-edd1-449f-b2a1-10b26fe905a2">Re: I can't believe I'm posting this..</a>:
  [QUOTE]Perhaps this is obvious, but you should tell the host of the event (your mother) that one of the main players hasn't ordered her dress yet, and have the host of the event handle this issue.  She's certainly known this person for a lifetime, and she will have more effective ways to deal with her than you.
  Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
  
  Listen lady, why you insist on constantly assuming that the parents are the host of every wedding on the face of the goddamn planet is the eighth wonder of the world to me.  If you can't give advice that wasn't ripped directly from the pages of a 1954 Good Housekeeping issue please, for the love of God, STFU.
  
  Also, for everyone on board the "go tell your mom" party train, if anything she should speak to her mom about her concern regarding her sister's pot habit.  Not her concern that her sister's pot habit is going to ruin her pretty princess day.  Why you think she needs to run to Mommy is beyond me.  Grown ass women, people. 
  
  And for the record, Hensley, that is NOT at all what I'm getting from you.  I have the feeling this is an issue that's been brought up a lot in the family and there gets to a point where mom can't control her grown ass daughter's habits.  Your situation sucks royally, but I agree that if you pay for her dress you would be enabling her bad habits.  If this was any other kind of financial issue, I would say go ahead and pay for it if you can.  But sister-girl needs to learn there are consequences to her actions, and one of those will be not being able to stand up in her sister's wedding if she doesn't get her sh*t together.

  

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• hugz415 member

  

  July 2010

  sounds like her "deal" is that she is a pot-head.  I lived with several in college and they tend to be less than motivated about anything other than lighting up.  Maybe if you tell her her dress is made of pot she will go buy it.  

  
  

  I would be pissed but I would likely just end up buying it for her bc the chances of her suddenly being responsible are slim to none.  

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• akhensley81 member

  

  July 2010

  Lol hugz... you know, the dress is green. If I get her stoned enough, that just might work.
  
  But seriously... Nuggs you totally hit the nail on the head with this one. I've been texting my MOH all night about this and I've come to a final decision. If sister-girl wants to F this up, then I'm going to let her.
  
  I called the dress shop tonight to check on it... 1) she still hasn't ordered it, and 2) the dress still has a 6-week lead time (they warn me that could change at any time). The way I see it, she has until next week Friday and she's out of the BP if she can't figure out a way to hack it.
  

  

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