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Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot
can we start over? I'd really like to have a place I can come and talk wedding so that I don't drive all my family and friends crazy.
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Re: Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot
[QUOTE]That's fine :) Don't take anything personally and dont get offended. Everyone is just blunt- no sugar coating here. I know I got offended and took things personally a few times, it happens, just learn from your experiences :)
Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]
Thanks sydaries : )
[QUOTE]As long as you're willing to act like an adult and accept that people might not always give you the advice you want.
Posted by Fancypantsamy[/QUOTE]
well that's a little back handed.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : well that's a little back handed.
Posted by lauraandpeterforever[/QUOTE]
I don't think it's back handed. I think it's a very direct way of saying, that your other post was bratty and immature. If you want to start over, you don't get a clean slate without accepting some of the responsibility for the flaming you got and recognizing that when you post, you are going to get very blunt, direct answers. People here aren't going to blow sunshine and rainbows up your butt.
As long as you can accept that, I'm sure most people will welcome you.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : I don't think it's back handed. I think it's a very direct way of saying, that your other post was bratty and immature. If you want to start over, you don't get a clean slate without accepting some of the responsibility for the flaming you got and recognizing that when you post, you are going to get very blunt, direct answers. People here aren't going to blow sunshine and rainbows up your butt. As long as you can accept that, I'm sure most people will welcome you.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]
But I love sunshine and rainbows blown up my butt : P
I get what you're saying and I'll try not to get defensive in the future.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : well that's a little back handed.
Posted by lauraandpeterforever[/QUOTE]
I think it's just blunt but she's right. TK is here to tell you when your ideas are wrong, innapropriate, or rude.
I still think you owe some girls an apology for calling them names..... other than that, welcome to TK i guess, lurk on here for a bit, search the old posts and get ideas on etiquette, budget, and everything else that comes with wedding planning.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : I think it's just blunt but she's right. TK is here to tell you when your ideas are wrong, innapropriate, or rude.<strong> I still think you owe some girls an apology for calling them names</strong>..... other than that, welcome to TK i guess, lurk on here for a bit, search the old posts and get ideas on etiquette, budget, and everything else that comes with wedding planning.
Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]
Thanks for the welcome but for the bolded part I'll decline. I was called names and blatantly talked down to by other posters before I even broke out name calling. I don't expect an apology from them and they probably don't expect an apology from me. The way I see it is we can call it a wash.
[QUOTE]If by "we" you mean "you" and by "got off on the wrong foot" you mean "pitched not one but two massive toddler tantrums in the space of hours, were incredibly insulting, and refused to admit fault", then yes, I agree "we" "got off on the wrong foot".
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
This is just flat out rude. I'm trying to make peace and start over. Quit trying to provoke an argument.
[QUOTE]Hi Laura. Thanks for hearing us out and trying again. We really are trying to help you, but the advice is quite blunt. It's a bit shocking the first time around, but I think many people around here have endured flames and have come out better for it. Roll with it. And definitely think about what you post before it goes up for the world to see. Welcome!
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
Thanks Joy!
[QUOTE]Many of the girls on here got a reality check when they first posted, I know I did. Most people here don't mind if you disagree, but they do mind if you are disrespectful. It took several months of digesting the information I got to realize that while I didn't like that their advice was right, it was still right. I came back to the boards and listened, learned, and used common sense. You will find a LOT of down to earth common sense here. Which is what I personally love. No cowtowing to the industry, no bootlicking fashionistas, no petty divas. Just girls who care about preserving relationships while throwing beautiful weddings. People notice the difference too if you approach the wedding graciously. My guests did and said it was the best they'd been to, despite us not being rich.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]
This. Exactly how I feel.
In defense of Stage, it's hard to move forward with someone who refuses to apologize for wrong doing. Perhaps if you apologize you will receive an apology back.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : This. Exactly how I feel. In defense of Stage, it's hard to move forward with someone who refuses to apologize for wrong doing. Perhaps <strong>if you apologize you will receive an apology back.
</strong>Posted by Sharpschruter22[/QUOTE]
I was taught growing up not to apologize and expect an apology in return. I was also taught only to say I was sorry if I actually mean it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : I was taught growing up not to apologize and expect an apology in return. I was also taught only to say I was sorry if I actually mean it.
Posted by lauraandpeterforever[/QUOTE]
Ok. So, what I am hearing, is that you want to stick around, talk about your wedding, ask for help and advice, but you don't want to actually accept responsibility for starting the shitstorm you posted yesterday?
You started out by posting how ridiculous everyone was. And now you want to just wash the slate clean as though that never happened? The liklihood of that happening is slim.
If you don't to acknowledge that you threw hissy fits, and that is why you got jumped on, you are better off just starting a new account with a new name and acting like you've never been on before.
My recommendation is to create a new account, come back and say "Hey, I'm new here. Looking forward to all of the advice!" That's the only way the internet gods will forget the hot mess you created.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : Ok. So, what I am hearing, is that you want to stick around, talk about your wedding, ask for help and advice, but you don't want to actually accept responsibility for starting the shitstorm you posted yesterday? You started out by posting how ridiculous everyone was. And now you want to just wash the slate clean as though that never happened? The liklihood of that happening is slim. If you don't to acknowledge that you threw hissy fits, and that is why you got jumped on, you are better off just starting a new account with a new name and acting like you've never been on before. My recommendation is to create a new account, come back and say "Hey, I'm new here. Looking forward to all of the advice!" That's the only way the internet gods will forget the hot mess you created.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]
^^^^^^^ Ditto...what she said...
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : Ok. So, what I am hearing, is that you want to stick around, talk about your wedding, ask for help and advice, but you don't want to actually accept responsibility for starting the shitstorm you posted yesterday? You started out by posting how ridiculous everyone was. And now you want to just wash the slate clean as though that never happened? The liklihood of that happening is slim. If you don't to acknowledge that you threw hissy fits, and that is why you got jumped on, you are better off just starting a new account with a new name and acting like you've never been on before. <strong>My recommendation is to create a new account, come back and say "Hey, I'm new here. Looking forward to all of the advice!" That's the only way the internet gods will forget the hot mess you created.</strong>
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yeaaaaah that's my advice, too.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot: Exactly. I'm not hearing "hey, I want to start over", I'm hearing "hey, I want people to be nice to me now."
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
Right, and now with the back to back questions here... I have a feeling some knotties who aren't taking the "lets start over" post very well, might just "report" her posts, and they will be removed. It only takes two...
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : Ok. So, what I am hearing, is that you want to stick around, talk about your wedding, ask for help and advice, but you don't want to actually accept responsibility for starting the shitstorm you posted yesterday? You started out by posting how ridiculous everyone was. And now you want to just wash the slate clean as though that never happened? The liklihood of that happening is slim. If you don't to acknowledge that you threw hissy fits, and that is why you got jumped on, you are better off just starting a new account with a new name and acting like you've never been on before. <strong> My recommendation is to create a new account, come back and say "Hey, I'm new here. Looking forward to all of the advice!" That's the only way the internet gods will forget the hot mess you created.</strong>
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]
This - I don't think I'll see a post with OP's name on it without automatically thinking "crazypants."
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : Right, and now with the back to back questions here... I have a feeling some knotties who aren't taking the "lets start over" post very well, might just "report" her posts, and they will be removed. It only takes two...
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]
Why would you report me for posting several times? That makes no sense.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : Why would you report me for posting several times? That makes no sense.
Posted by lauraandpeterforever[/QUOTE]
No, it doesn't make any sense. In the same crazytrain way it doesn't make any sense that you want people to be all happy and nice to you after you acted like a complete idiot yesterday.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : No, it doesn't make any sense. In the same crazytrain way it doesn't make any sense that you want people to be all happy and nice to you after you acted like a complete idiot yesterday.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]
I don't expect everyone to like me. That's just not how the world turns. Thanks for the insult though.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Obviously, we got off on the wrong foot : I don't expect everyone to like me. That's just not how the world turns. Thanks for the insult though.
Posted by lauraandpeterforever[/QUOTE]
It wasn't an insult. What it was, was an acknowledgement of what you started yesterday. Are you an idiot overall, as a human being? I have no idea. I don't know you. Was what you did on the boards yesterday idiotic. Yep. Absolutely.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
"I don't expect everyone to like me. That's just not how the world turns. Thanks for the insult though." If you don't expect people to like you or what they think of you, then what was the reason for this post? why do you find the need to get along with people now? it's not gonna happen as long as you keep this attitude. have you heard of weddingbee? maybe this is the site for you. it's all rainbows and unicorns over there. check it out.
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_what-did-you-expect-from-your-bridal-party
Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:
http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/