So we were getting all the RSVPs back in, and were approaching the final number deadline (friday) and FI's mom says to him "have you thought of inviting cousin X and Y?" (X and Y are close in age to FI and their parents are invited, and they would fill up a table with their family.. .so I caved and said fine, add them on but under no conditions is this rule being stretched for anyone else.
So cousin X can't come, but Y can. Final numbers go in... one person more than a whole number of tables. grrr.... so we do a seating arrangement and send it in to the caterer too - like, the arrangement of seating and how many people are at each table, not actual names.
This afternoon I get an email "so, cousin Y can't come after all.. I hope it's not too late" WHAT?! so I email the caterer and plead for her to have mercy on us and not charge us the extra for this cousin who was never supposed to be there in the first place because we're only one business day late.. hopefully she will be kind!
And we did a whole other seating chart that works and we have one less table, so that part is good. the only thing is that the parents of cousin Y might be less happy with their arrangement since they're sitting with family they're not close to and 4 other people that thye don't know as opposed to their siblings like they would have been.. is it bad to not really have compassion on them and be like "tough luck, you have each other and you can catch up with your long lost family" ??
So tired of weddingness.