I'm a BM for my brother's fiancee and currently in the ideas stages with her 2 sisters (co-MOHs) and 3 other BMs for her Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Party, and I am hoping to get your opinion on where we (ok, my mother) fit in as the Groom's Family.
I feel most comfortable pitching in, but allowing her sisters to take the lead.
My mother has asked me repeatedly to offer her house as the shower location (whereas I think her house should be the backup plan if the MOHs can't come up with a suitable and affordable location on their own) and believes the guestlist should include her friends, their daughters, and the groomsmen's girlfriends while I think it should be limited to just our immediate female relatives.
I am not sure how well the bride knows many of my mom's guests, but my mom says that she knows her friends will want to give my brother's fiancee a nice gift and that she feels the groomsmen's girlfriends are the fiancee's "friends" as well, but I am not 100% certain of this. My brother has stated a few times that his fiancee and his one groomsmen's girlfriend were not on good terms at all and this has caused a lot of issues when he wants to hang out with his friend.
Additionally, the extended family is getting in on it! Ex: We should hire my graphic designer cousin to do the invites. I'm trying to mostly tune this out, although this is our family's first wedding in over a decade so I understand the over-eagerness.
Is it correct to add on guests from the "groom's side"? Should all final approval on the shower guestlist come from the bride? The MOHs? (Adding guests becomes an expense for all the bridesmaids as well, which is not as much my concern as overstepping boundaries). Or is it bad etiquette to just include the bride's guests, because it seems as if our family's friends don't want to give a shower gift?