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gabbie2287
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being strong because i know we can
Hey just wanted to say hello to everyone. my Future husband is a great man and we have been through a deployment and have been together as a couple for over a year, and best friends since we were 10. we are going to be getting married in the begining of 2012, but unfortunatly he will most likely be deployed before then, its not my fist rodeo, but i would love to hear from other women. Last time we delt with the deployment without support, but i believe hearing from others can teach us a few tricks, to becomeing a stronger couple. thank you
Proverbs 24:3-4 "By wisdom a house is built,
And by understanding it is established. And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches."
And by understanding it is established. And by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches."
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Re: being strong because i know we can
[QUOTE]Samil, please take out his return date. That's a big OPSEC violation! As for the rest of it<strong>, I am SO psyched for FI's next deployment! He gets to go do his job, I get to watch all the crap tv I want and work towards my personal goals without feeling guilty at all!</strong>
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This! FI will probably be getting deployed again soon after our wedding. I actually plan to go off BC then, so I can see how crazy I get and he won't have to deal with it.
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[QUOTE]being a partner of a service member is the hardest job to have in the military, and few can acually do it. so go ahead and support your troop
Posted by gabbie2287[/QUOTE]
<div>If you want a "job" in the military, you should probably go see a recruiter. What my fiance does every day is difficult and dangerous, and I would never describe loving him as a job.</div><div>
</div><div>I hate bumper stickers sometimes.</div>
And statistically, men in the 18-29 year old age bracket do die at a higher per capita rate in the US than deployed soldiers. A lot of that has to do with the fact that men in the military tend to be in better physical shape than civilians, so you see less obesity-related illnesses and you don't see soldiers deployed who have cancer and are on chemo. And then you've got gang related death in that age bracket in some inner city areas that drag down the domestic percentages, too. And car accidents, drug related deaths, etc. But still - it is technically more dangerous to live in the US than be deployed. Statistically speaking.
And I was being a bit facetious with the 'poser' bit - it's just that most couples are told around here that it's recommended to go through a deployment before getting married if at all possible because some chicks can't handle it and end up cheating on their spouses and stealing all their money before their service member gets back. And that happens A LOT! I actually tend to think it's the martyrs who think they're giving up so much to be a military spouse, and that being a military spouse is the hardest job, blah blah blah. It breeds a feeling of entitlement, and then they feel abandoned, and that their spouse just doesn't understand how hard it is for them back home, blah blah blah. Not healthy thinking.
[QUOTE]Dear Calindi I'm glad you plan on working on yourself, but please dont compare the "sandbox" or deployment to driving the steets of Miami. Being a significant other takes hard work, patience, understanding and thick skin. when you finally get to go through a deployment you will have that badge of honor but please dont consider yourself a poser just because u havent have a deployment under your belt yet.<strong> being a partner of a service member is the hardest job to have in the military, and few can acually do it.</strong> so go ahead and support your troop
Posted by gabbie2287[/QUOTE]
Are you kidding me? As a former SM and the spouse of a deployed AD SM, that statement is complete BS. Taking care of my 4 kids, keeping the house, playing on the beach and relaxing with a beer isn't shyt compared to MH getting friggin shot at every dang night, sleeping on a plastic bed, roasting is butt off in 140* heat and having to avoid getting blown up every time he drives down a street. Friggin A!
I apologize if I offended anyone please I meant no harm in my post I did not mean that to say what the men and women who are out there don’t have the hardest job and being with the man or woman you love is an occupation. I didn’t express what I wanted to say clearly, but thank you for correcting my speech I will endeavor to do better when I post a comment so what I say won’t offend and will properly share my thoughts. I am sorry, please offer any suggestions on how to better phrase myself, I don’t wish to insult anyone.
[QUOTE] I apologize if I offended anyone please I meant no harm in my post I did not mean that to say what the men and women who are out there don’t have the hardest job and being with the man or woman you love is an occupation. I didn’t express what I wanted to say clearly, but thank you for correcting my speech I will endeavor to do better when I post a comment so what I say won’t offend and will properly share my thoughts. I am sorry, please offer any suggestions on how to better phrase myself, I don’t wish to insult anyone.
Posted by gabbie2287[/QUOTE]
<div>You were just quoting one of the hundred bumper stickers or t-shirts you've probably seen. The thing is, the only people who think that statement is true are the spouses who think the world owes them everything because they are married to a SM. I think that phrase or title is a joke, and I'll use it to mess around with H when I don't want to do something, and say "hey, i have the toughest job in the military, I think you owe it to me to clean the kitchen." </div>
[QUOTE]Dear Calindi I'm glad you plan on working on yourself, but please dont compare the "sandbox" or deployment to driving the steets of Miami. Being a significant other takes hard work, patience, understanding and thick skin. when you finally get to go through a deployment you will have that badge of honor but please dont consider yourself a poser just because u havent have a deployment under your belt yet. <strong>being a partner of a service member is the hardest job to have in the military, and few can acually do it.</strong> so go ahead and support your troop
Posted by gabbie2287[/QUOTE]
<div>I guess being able to do what I want, eat delicious foods, not being on a ship floating the ocean for months while working in a HOT plant, getting to have a full nights sleep is the already the toughest job in the military? H teases me about trading places with him, sometimes I even tell him "I would love to." I would never say that statement you made. </div>
[QUOTE]Yeah, being a spouse isn't the hardest job in the military by a long run. I'd probably give that award to <strong>bomb techs</strong>, personally. I don't know how they do what they do, but I'm glad they do it. It might be annoying and frustrating to be a military spouse, but it's not hard. And it's certainly not harder than what the service members are doing themselves. And statistically, men in the 18-29 year old age bracket do die at a higher per capita rate in the US than deployed soldiers. A lot of that has to do with the fact that men in the military tend to be in better physical shape than civilians, so you see less obesity-related illnesses and you don't see soldiers deployed who have cancer and are on chemo. And then you've got gang related death in that age bracket in some inner city areas that drag down the domestic percentages, too. And car accidents, drug related deaths, etc. But still - it is technically more dangerous to live in the US than be deployed. Statistically speaking. And I was being a bit facetious with the 'poser' bit - it's just that most couples are told around here that it's recommended to go through a deployment before getting married if at all possible because some chicks can't handle it and end up cheating on their spouses and stealing all their money before their service member gets back. And that happens A LOT! I actually tend to think it's the martyrs who think they're giving up so much to be a military spouse, and that being a military spouse is the hardest job, blah blah blah. It breeds a feeling of entitlement, and then they feel abandoned, and that their spouse just doesn't understand how hard it is for them back home, blah blah blah. Not healthy thinking.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Are you talking about EODs?
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: being strong because i know we can : Are you talking about EODs?
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
Weren't you going away and never coming back?
I don't know the technical term - I meant people who dress in big protective suits and try to defuse bombs by hand. What made me think of it was reading an article a few weeks ago (that I can't find now) about a couple who met in bomb tech school (whatever it's called) and got married, and she ended up getting killed and he still does it. Very sad, and very heroic.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: being strong because i know we can : Weren't you going away and never coming back? I don't know the technical term - I meant people who dress in big protective suits and try to defuse bombs by hand. What made me think of it was reading an article a few weeks ago (that I can't find now) about a couple who met in bomb tech school (whatever it's called) and got married, and she ended up getting killed and he still does it. Very sad, and very heroic.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
I lerk and come and go.<div>
</div><div>That is really cool. If you find it will you post it?</div><div>
</div><div>I Future brother in law is in EOD school. It is very scary. He loves what he does though. I have more repect for him than I do for anyone else in the military</div>